Christians Have No Fun— NOT

John-10-10Is the Christian life supposed to be no fun? I would say Absolutely Not. Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10).

The other day, I had a friend of ours come over to the house. I have know this family for over 20 yrs. We knew them long before we moved to St. George. I worked with his wife in Phoenix and I never thought twice about going out to hangout at the bar with friends after work and there wasn’t much that was taboo from talking about. The one bar had a ladies night and they had male dancers. I worked at a truck stop and swearing was nothing unusual.

When my husband and I moved to St. George, I never really thought about how swearing sounded until I was the only one in a room and I got this overwhelming feeling that it was not OK. I call it the moment God gave me a wake-up call and told me I needed to start acting like a Christian and a believer in Christ. Not just in private, but in my words and actions. God put my own words on my heart like a ton of bricks. It was at the moment that I had to make a decision to stop making excuses about going out with friends to bars and swearing like a sailor.

What got me on this topic though is when he said that since I changed, I don’t know how to have fun since I am all about Jesus. It wasn’t in those exact words though. But that is basically what he was saying. He then proceeded to say that it is funner to go out to bars and strip joints than to go to church and be around the kind of friends I have. I am paraphrasing this again. As I thought on this for a split second, I was perfectly OK with what he said. The reason I say that is that he has been able to distinguish the old me and the new me. Ever since I was young, I believed in Christ. My actions and thoughts didn’t always show that I am a Christian and a believer in Christ.

For awhile I was thinking that it is possible that some non–Christians do have more fun. After all sin can be fun.  The things some people in my life look at as fun are not good or right for us. And because of the consequences, the so–called “fun” often ends up not being fun at all

Lies the Devil Tells Us:

  • “The Christian life is a dull one with no fun.” “Christianity if no fun.” “To be a Christian is to be a ‘stick in the mud.’” “All Christians are ‘goody two-shoes.’” To that I say “No fun? By fun you might be thinking of hangovers while sticking your head in the toilet as you throw up all over yourself, sickness, and memory loss?  Not to mention promiscuous tendencies that destroy families?
  • “If I am going to be a Christian I have to give up everything.” I have found that when I  devote myself to God,  He fulfills the most amazing dreams and promises than I could imagine.
  • “Christians miss out on so much”… I would have to say that as a Christian my life is fuller than I could have ever dreamed it could be. I feel for those who don’t understand what that kind of peace and love is.

There is a saying that is well known, “If you talk the talk, then you have to walk the walk.” When I think about what it means to walk the walk I believe that in my life, my faith in Christ requires a strong determination to follow God’s plan regardless what life throws my way. There are times I have had to put on the brave face and the Armour of God and have courage to stand up for my beliefs, even if it isn’t the popular or fun thing to do. I have never regretted doing that. I figure I must be doing something right if those people in my life over 20 yrs ago can see the change and the difference.

My life needed to have a little shake up. I was in need of the wake up call and I needed to get back on the right path. The moment I was forced to look deep inside myself and I wasn’t happy with my own choices, I decided I needed to throw my arms up in the air and surrendered to Him again. Jesus Christ changed my life. I didn’t change my life. Without Him, I would be at the same miserable place I was at before. I just didn’t realize how unhappy I was with my choices in life. God took me on a journey when we moved to St. George. He taught me how to open up my heart and walk by faith.

When someone tells me that I’m not fun anymore because I don’t go out and party, drink and do things that I knew I shouldn’t have been doing, I am perfectly fine with that. I enjoy my life as a believer in Christ. God has blessed me more than any person could. I guess what some see as fun activities aren’t fun for everyone. I enjoy real relationships and friendships. God has entrusted me with some of life’s most treasured moments.

Jesus is looking for those with clean hands and a pure heart, those who will choose obedience even if it costs them everything this world has to offer. He is looking for those who will throw caution to the wind, believe that he has an abundant life (John 10:10) waiting if we will follow his ways.

I thank God everyday for His promises even when it seems there is no hope. Even when my life seems out of whack. God is the One in control. So to those who thinks being a Christian is no fun, I would like to say that you aren’t really living, till you know that you have forever.

Throughout my life and all the journeys to come, I’m waving the white flag of surrender. God is in control of my life and I am more than willing to use it for His glory.

Here is a fun Christian song called “What if Cartoons Got Saved” by Chris Rice.

Harold Has Issues

Some of you may remember that we got a new kitten that we rescued from Ivin’s Animal Shelter. Harold is the sweetest cat. But Harold has issues.

10834898_10203785916585202_3510087066797472487_oWe got Harold when we was 10 weeks old. The shelter instructed us to have him fixed a few weeks after we got him. He was sick with a cold and needed to finish up the antibiotics. He was scheduled to be fixed a couple weeks later. When we brought him home, he wasn’t himself. He was playful before he went in, but afterwards he was having problems.

Harold was loosing weight, falling and having a hard time keeping his balance. I have been extremely stressed over this kitten. He wasn’t wanting to eat anything. He would drink a bit, but that was it.

Harold has been  showing signs of muscle weakness, difficulty in eating and swallowing , there are chances that auto-antibodies are attacking the acetylcholine receptors on muscles.

I took Harold to the vet and they tested him for feline leukemia, infections, worms, inner ear problem and a host of other things. Then the vet came in and told me that he had a type of feline autoimmune disease. It could have been brought on by him just getting over a virus and then when he got his immunizations, it reacted with his antibodies. Leave it up to me to get a cat that has an autoimmune disorder.

They explained to me that with an autoimmune disease is where antibodies are created to work against the body. He didn’t know that I can totally understand the who auto immune thing since I have been dealing with one thing or another most of my life.

Today, Harold has been doing better. We have to watch him when he sleeps with us, because he can’t jump down. He can hurt himself since he falls the way he does. He falls while standing and can’t balance himself at all. As I was reading up on what is wrong with Harold, it was like living in the twilight zone. This is what it says about Harold’s issues;

  • This is symptoms Harold is exhibiting is that of a chronic progressive disease characterized by chronic fatigue and muscular weakness, especially in the face and neck, known as Myasthenia gravis.

The reason I say it was like living in the twilight zone with Harold, is because I have Myasthenia Gravis. I had no clue that animals can get it too. He didn’t specify that it was MG, he used this long word. Then when I googled it, I was blown away. He had the feline form on MG . They say the prognosis isn’t great because of the difficulties they have. Well, God had to have known that Harold needed a family that would understand his special needs.

It all made sense after putting all his symptoms together and what he is doing. He has issues with the light. He can’t focus his eyes and he will go out of his way to look away from the light. The way he walks, bumps into the walls and falls while standing all makes sense.

We could have put him down but that was NOT an option. So , we will just make sure he doesn’t hurt himself and we will make sure he eats foods to help him.

Hate Us For Our Faith

imagesZ5S9VLR0For the most part, I listen to the messages at church. Every now and then, my mind gets to wondering and I make notes to myself, so I can remind myself to blog about a topic or thought.  On this particular Sunday, this was the case. When Pastor Ray does the opening prayer and such and he says in his prayer for our minds and hearts to be cleared and to hear the message, I have to say that I kind of feel guilty when I start making notes so I can cover them later.

This last Sunday the sermon was out of Luke 21:1-19 and the Message is, “For My Name’s Sake” I want to do a post on about how Pastor Ray was talking about how everyone will hate those who proclaim the name of Jesus. I have no problem if people hate me because I believe in Christ.

 

Luke 21: 5-19 NIV

5 Some of his disciples were remarking about how the temple was adorned with beautiful stones and with gifts dedicated to God. But Jesus said, 6 “As for what you see here, the time will come when not one stone will be left on another; every one of them will be thrown down.” 7 “Teacher,” they asked, “when will these things happen? And what will be the sign that they are about to take place?” 8 He replied: “Watch out that you are not deceived. For many will come in my name, claiming, ‘I am he,’ and, ‘The time is near.’ Do not follow them. 9 When you hear of wars and uprisings, do not be frightened. These things must happen first, but the end will not come right away.”10 Then he said to them: untitled“Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. 11 There will be great earthquakes, famines and pestilences in various places, and fearful events and great signs from heaven. 12 “But before all this, they will seize you and persecute you. They will hand you over to synagogues and put you in prison, and you will be brought before kings and governors, and all on account of my name. 13 And so you will bear testimony to me. 14 But make up your mind not to worry beforehand how you will defend yourselves. 15 For I will give you words and wisdom that none of your adversaries will be able to resist or contradict. 16 You will be betrayed even by parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death. 17 Everyone will hate you because of me. 18 But not a hair of your head will perish. 19 Stand firm, and you will win life.

The end times is a subject I take very serious. As I was jotting down my notes, I couldn’t help but think about how blessed I am to live where I do. For the most part, I have never experienced the types of persecutions many brothers and sisters in Christ have experienced in other countries. People are loosing thier lives as I type this blog post out. Every day people are dying for thier faith. For me, the most persecution I get is if someone doesn’t agree with what the Bible says and they let me know that there is no God or they believe in another God. I get hot under the collar on that one.

I can’t begin to understand what those Christians that are being beheaded, hung and murdered because they believe in God and have accepted Jesus Christ as thier Lord and Savior are going through.

imagesRVPJC8J0Here in the United States, I don’t know if we are considered a Christian nation anymore. Political correctiveness doesn’t allow discussions on what it means to live a life that is entirly focused on Christ. There is a firestorm waiting for you for standing up for your faith and for Christ. In the media there have been a number of people or businesses that come to mind when I say that you will be persecuted for your faith. Some of those people would include Kirk Cameron, Chick Fil A, Duck Dynesty and so on. Pastor Ray was bringing up how businesses were being shut down because the owners refused to buckle and do what was against thier beleifs. There has been a number of businessed that have been closed for this very reason.

Humans for the most part have longed to be loved and accepted. When we use the term “hated”, we have a hard time accepting the fact that there are those out there that hate us and want us dead. We are told that the world will hate us because they hate Jesus. Jesus is hated because Jesus is the Light of the world. Since we are beleivers in Christ we are the light of the world and the salt of the earth. A world that is dark and filled with sin and our world is more resistant to Christianity than ever.  On social medias I have found that the popular thing is to talk about acceptance and tolerance of other faith, What I find moreso is the true reality is that our world and country is tolerant of anything and everything but not the moral values of Christianity.

  • 1st Peter 4:12-13 says, ? Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when His glory is revealed.
  • Matthew 24:9 Jesus says, ? You will be handed over to be persecuted and put to death and you will be hated by all nations because of Me.

In closing I just want to say is that if we live the way Jesus calls us to live, we will be persecuted. As a Christian, I would hope that people would know I am a beleiver in Christ through my words and actions. I also understand that persecution of one kind or another will come my way. If it didn’t, I would need to examine what it is that I am doing wrong that tells those around me that I am a Christian. Through my own struggles I have had to 120% lean on Christ and my faith no matter how difficult my life gets. At the end of the day, Christ is who has my life in His hands. When we face illness and heartbreak and even death we can be asssured that God and our faith is real.

God and Prayer is the Greatest Tools We Have…

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I was reading about all of the things going on with ISIS and how it  continues to murder anyone that they think is going against what they see has beliefs that draw people away from what they call their true God. Isis is committing genocide on the Yazidis and the few Christians who are left. This week they warned America, “We will drown all of you in blood.” There is no ambiguity in that threat.

I had to look up a few sites to see what it is that they really believe. This is what I found;

  • NBC News- The core belief of Islam is that ‘there no God but Allah and Mohammed is his prophet.’ The one creator God has revealed his will finally and perfectly, primarily through the divinely inspired words of the Quran given to Mohammed and secondly through Mohammed’s own life and teaching.
  • Huffington News.  I like this article and I like the opening sentence of, “Obama admits to not having a strategy. Duck Dynasty Godfather, Phil Robertson, wants to “convert ‘em or kill ‘em.”

As a Christian and an American, how is it that we or I should say myself should respond to these threats.

When I hear of all the deaths and the persecuted Christians it makes me sick to my stomach. As a Christian, I pray for those who are being persecuted. I understand that in the end Christ will be victorious. Even though I know this, it doesn’t make it easy to listen to the stories about all that is going on around the world. According to the news today, around 90 more Christians were just recently captured by ISIS.

It isn’t just ISIS, there are also other countries that have imprisoned Christians because they would not deny Christ. When I read about the lives of Christians being beheaded, I first get angry and I think about the fact that they have got to pay for what they are doing. They will be paying for all they have done, we all are accountable for the things we have done. I thank God everyday that God loves me and forgives me for my wrong doing.

As I listen more to what is going on and I get upset, I have been thinking about it is as a Christian that I need to do. I pray on this almost everyday if not everyday. The answer I get is “pray for them”. I know it sounds like a simple solution.  But it is the only solution. The power of prayer is greater than any other tool we as Christians posses.

With God on our side and the power of prayer, we can make a difference. Praying for those Christians who have lost their lives from ISIS, along with all the Christians who are at this moment alive. How incredible it would be for radical Muslims to see the witness of the Iraqi Church, the testimony of persecuted Christians and encounter the living person of Jesus. Nothing is impossible.

A reporter was interviewing a father of one the young men that was killed and he was talking about the kind of peace he has experiences. The families of the murdered expressed a desire to provide light to these men whose eyes have been blinded so that they might experience God’s truth and love. There was a realization among these believers that Jesus was all they had, and they were “all in” for Him.

Upon thinking about all of the things going on with ISIS and other groups like them, I think the only thing we can do is pray for them and share the gospel of Christ with anyone and everyone. Maybe, just maybe one of those who are killing and beheading will turn to God. If the families can forgive and pray, then I think that is something we as Christians should do. As Christians we have an obligation to pray for the suffering of our Christian brothers and sisters.

I Can’t Make Them Believe!

images7Y9Y5G9AThere are some things I just don’t understand. On Sunday after church I was talking to someone that I am close to about what happens after a person dies. We need to make a decision while we are alive. Well, the conversation I was having with this person ticked me off to no end. The reason why is that he thinks that once a person dies, they are dead, nothing more. This is one of those statements that gets me going. I then asked him if he believed in Jesus, why does he think once we die, there is nothing else. Well, his statement got me again. He proceeded to say that I have to believe in something, so it might as well be Jesus. My thought was, “Oh no, you did NOT just say that.”

My thought on this is that if a person who believes in Jesus and not believe there is anything after a person dies is totally insane. I don’t get it whatsoever. A friend of mine believed that Jesus is the same as Budda, Muhammad and all the other religious leaders or gods. I had a really hard time talking to her since she feels that all are correct and Jesus was just a teacher. Oh man, I had to take a chill pill on that conversation. I was getting overly sensitive on it and I knew I had to step back or I would insert my foot into my mouth. I’m really good at that. I had to step back since I was so frustrated with the conversations. I can’t really do that with the person I had this conversation with on Sunday since I see him all the time.

512For me, my faith is everything. It is more important than anyone or anything in my life. God comes before anyone and anything. I can’t help but wonder what gives people hope if they don’t know Christ. What gives them peace? I have known many that feel the same way as the person in the conversation and almost all of them go through life on auto pilot and they don’t seem to be happy. I have so many medical issues and there are many uncertainties. If I didn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, I have no clue how I would deal with the things I do if I didn’t have Christ.

As a believer in Christ, I know without a doubt that there is a heaven and a hell. Now weather that is a fire and brimstone or a place where God isn’t is something I don’t know. I have no plans on wanting to ever find out. When I hear people say that, “yes, there is a person called Jesus, but, there is nothing else.” I want to scream and knock some sense into them. I can’t wrap my mind around the whole thing and why he would think there is nothing.

  • 2 Corinthians 5:6-10- Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord. We live by faith, not by sight. We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.

I guess I can understand somewhat when a person who doesn’t believe has never been to church and has never heard the gospel. But for a person who has heard the gospel all his life should know better.

I had to come to a point a long time ago that I can’t use a hammer to make someone believe in Christ. No matter how upset or angry I get, I can’t force someone to accept Christ. While we are still living, or until Jesus comes again, we have every opportunity to repent. But in the end we will all be judged.

Last night before I went to sleep I was praying for a number of people. I had it on my heart to pray for a young man that was at our church Sunday. There was something about him that spoke to my heart. His head was hanging and was looking down the entire service. There was something about him that struck me in a odd way. I prayed during our service and each night since. I also prayed for my mom who is struggling with stage 4  lung and colon cancer. I also prayed about this conversation I was having Sunday.

jesus_returnLast night or at some point I was having a dream about the end times. It was actually a two part dream. The first part of the dream was where I was at the hospital and  looking at the moon, I love to take pictures of the moon and stars. The moon was full and the stars seemed brighter than usual.  As I was taking pictures and looking up toward the moon, all the sudden it turned the brightest red I have ever seen in my life.

After that, it was as if I was immediately floating upwards. For what seemed like a very short time, I was told that there isn’t much time before Christ returns and to spread the gospel since time was short. I’m pretty sure I had this dream since I am so concerned over the unsaved. I woke up to get a drink and went back to sleep. My dream continued from the first one.

endtmestrumpetWhen the dream continued I could hear the trumpet sound and the skies opened wide. I would imagine it would have been loud, but it wasn’t. It was loud from my perspective though. Everything was changed in a split second. I didn’t remember those who weren’t there. I had no memory. But I do remember standing before God and it wasn’t but a second if that. In that moment is was as if the world that God created has been renewed and perfect as it was intended when God created it and man messed it up royally.

After I woke up a few Bible verses came to mind.

  • (Revelation 21:1-4) – Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.
  • John 5:25-29 – Most assuredly, I say to you, the hour is coming, and now is, when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God; and those who hear will live. For as the Father has life in Himself, so He has granted the Son to have life in Himself, and has given Him authority to execute judgment also, because He is the Son of Man. Do not marvel at this; for the hour is coming in which all who are in the graves will hear His voice and come forth — those who have done good, to the resurrection of life, and those who have done evil, to the resurrection of condemnation.

In closing, I just want to say that while you are breathing and still here, you need to make a decision. Either accept Christ or don’t. It has to be your choice. No matter how strongly I feel about this and I don’t want to see anyone be lost and without Christ, I can’t make anyone believe.

Here is a good link to get more information on accepting Christ. Way of the Master- Are You A Good Person

Thank You For Giving!

kingdomThere are some songs that really touches my heart than others. For the most part I listen to praise and worship music the most. I love Casting Crowns, Mandisa, Rich Mullins, Chris Tomlin, Mercy Me, Third Day, Matthew West and a whole list of other Christian artists. There is one particular song that touches me more than any other Christian song. That song is Ray Boltz’s “Thank You”. If you have never heard the song, you should take a few moments to listen to the song.

The reason why this song means so much to me is that it speaks 100% of what my walk with Christ and how I became a Christian started. I will break down the lyrics as I go along.

I dreamed I went to heaven
And you were there with me;
We walked upon the streets of gold
Beside the crystal sea.
We heard the angels singing
Then someone called your name.
We turned and saw a young man running
And he was smiling as he came.
And he said, “Friend you may not know me now.”
And then he said, “But wait,
You used to teach my Sunday School
When I was only eight.

871f34100180c606eeef8e33c7177b30These verses ring true to me because when I was around 8 yrs old, my mom would send all of to church with a lady from the Nazarene Church. I remember sitting there and looking around at the people. There was a  huge difference from the way they lived in comparison to how I was raised.  We were sent to church so we weren’t in the way. I don’t think we were sent there because we wanted to go. My parents never went to church. While I went to that Nazarene Church in Knox Indiana, God was implanted into my heart and I knew I wanted what they had.

There was a lady that was baptized in the lake, and I wanted to be baptized so badly. For me, I knew that Christ was the only answer in my life. He was the only positive thing besides my grandparents and cousins Allen and Raelene. God literally was my saving grace. To this day I have dreams of what it is going to be like when I meet Jesus face to face.

And every week you would say a prayer
Before the class would start.
And one day when you said that prayer,
I asked Jesus in my heart.”
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am a life that was changed.
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am so glad you gave.

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Pastor Harry Myers

Prayers and praying has always been important to me. There were many in my life and they still do that have prayed for me. I honestly don’t think I would be here now if it wasn’t for God and prayers. There was this lady named Mattie Bennett. She went out of her way when I was a teenager. Because of Mattie, I write poetry today. Her son Harry Myers was the pastor at the Willcox Church of the Nazarene. I can’t even count how many times they have had to rescue me literally from what was going on in my life. Because of people like Mattie, my life has changed for the better. They cared enough to step into my crazy life and I appreciate that to this day.

Then another man stood before you
And said, “Remember the time
A missionary came to your church
And his pictures made you cry.
You didn’t have much money,
But you gave it anyway.
Jesus took the gift you gave
And that’s why I’m here today.”
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am a life that was changed.
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am so glad you gave.

When it talks about how a missionary came to their church. We were having a revival at our church and the speaker was asking the congregation what would be the one thing we would fear if we were standing before God. At this point in my life, I never really had a fear of what to say to God. I think I was 11 or 12 at the time. But Pastor Harry’s daughter Cheryl stood up and said that she would be afraid to stand there in front of God and she would see someone she knew. When God asked her what it is that she done for Him, she went into detail. Then her friend was asked the same thing, and she said that nobody ever told her anything about accepting Christ. Cheryl’s comment stuck with me and it still does.

To this day, I think about her comment and I think I am the way I am because of it. I don’t have any issues when it comes to sharing my testimony or talking to people. I can get a bit over zealous at times though. So I have to keep myself in check. I have actually had nightmares about missing an opportunity to talk to those I love and care about it.

One by one they came
Far as the eye could see.
Each life somehow touched
By your generosity.
Little things that you had done,
Sacrifices made,
Unnoticed on the earth
In heaven, now proclaimed.

imagesYEGBMDCLI have tried to go out of my way to thank those who have made a difference in my life. Not only then, but now also. God has sent me so many friends, family, strangers and pets that I can only think of those people as blessings. When someone says that they didn’t really do anything, they don’t realize what kind of a difference they are making to those around them. As Christians, there are those who are watching our every move. We may not know we are making a difference, but each person is being used to advance the Kingdom of God. There are those who are set out to destroy also.

I think of how awesome and overwhelming it would be to look around and see all those people in heaven that has made a difference in my life. I honestly don’t think they would see themselves in the same way I do. I can’t wait to see all those who have gone on before.

And I know up in heaven
You’re not supposed to cry
But I am almost sure
There were tears in your eyes.
As Jesus took your hand
And you stood before the Lord.
He said, “My child, look around you.
Great is your reward.”
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am a life that was changed.
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am so glad you gave.
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am a life that was changed.
Thank you for giving to the Lord.
I am so glad you gave

I can’t even begin to understand or know what to expect when I get to heaven. But, I know that it will be beyond anything I can imagine.

Lastly, I just want to say THANK YOU to all of those who have made a difference in my life. I have been blessed beyond measure. There aren’t enough words to describe how much I appreciate all of those who God has used as tools. Without all those people who came into my life, I have no idea where I would be. It is scary to think of how my life would be without Jesus Christ.

Listen to Thank You by Ray Boltz

Ray Boltz has a lot of wonderful songs. They are worth listening to and they will speak to your heart also.

My Perfect Valentine

paperWhat a comfort it is that God is the patient with us, and how encouraging that God’s love is unfailing. God is our example when it comes to relating to others and loving those in our lives.  Thankfully God loves me so much that He has forgiven and accepts me with my faults and all. God is my perfect valentine.

Tomorrow February 14th is Valentines Day. Valentines is actually one of my least favorite holidays. The reason I say this is that I feel bad for those who think nobody loves them or cares about them because someone didn’t get them a heart-shaped box or chocolates.

When my daughters were younger, I felt bad for my daughter Beckiah. The schools would have it where your boyfriend or girlfriend could purchase a sucker, card or flower and have it delivered to the person. Beckiah was very upset when she came home. I had no idea what went on. She was upset and crying because she felt that nobody loved her since she didn’t get a valentine delivered to her. It was at that point where we no longer did Valentines. When a child or anyone else thinks they are unloved and that nobody cares because they didn’t get a card or chocolate demonstrates self-worth, it needs to be done away with.

Valentine’s Day can be a sad and depressing holiday for single people who long for love. A friend of mine told me that she hates Valentines day the most out of all the other holidays.  Everywhere you turn, you are reminded that you don’t have someone who loves you.  She said that you can’t even go to the store without being reminded by heart-shaped chocolates and cute stuffed animals  that say “I love you.”

When I worked in a local grocery store, I felt bad for some of the husbands. It was as if they were guilted into giving something to their wives or girl friends. One guy was so stressed over not being able to get his wife anything that he was nauseated. He said if he didn’t bring her something home, he would hear it from her. To me, that isn’t love. Love isn’t about spending money of nonsense stuff. Through out the day, guys would come in and buy stuff that wasn’t from their hearts. Every now and then, a spouse would come in and the gifts was from the heart. Anymore it is about commercialism and buying junk that collects dust.

Then another friend of mine was talking about how angry she will be if her husband doesn’t get her something. If he doesn’t that proves he doesn’t love her. REALLY??? I think she misses the point when it comes to love. Love isn’t about getting stuff, love is about giving of yourself willingly and from the heart. My husband was saying that if they think it is about getting stuff, then they are in love with materialist things, not the person. I don’t agree with him on all things, but this I do.

I guess I have never had the mentality that you must have a date on a calendar to show someone who you love them or care about them. I prefer the unexpected and not get something because it is what the stores and the world thinks you should do. If I see something for someone, then I will get it then. Not because someone says I have to, but because I want to.

Valentine John 3 -16

I don’t want to seen anti-valentines, because I do believe in love. When someone loves you genuinely, they don’t need to go buy me anything. I love my family with all my heart. I would lay my life down for them. I won’t be guilted into having to buy something though. When I think of the kind of love that all mankind should yearn for and experience is the kind that God has shown us.

God IS all about unconditional love. I can’t complain about not getting a box over over-priced chocolates or a stuffed toy when I have the most AMAZING Love every moment of every day.

When God says to Jeremiah in 31:3 “Yes I have loved you with an everlasting love” God is not only telling Jeremiah that His love is eternal, but God is also assuring him of a love that never fails.

  • Romans 5:8, “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this; While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Christ died to save us, not in our sins, but from our sins; and we were yet sinners when he died for us.