Month: June 2017

I don’t know about you or anyone else, but I can honestly say that I am getting sick of all of the hatred that is going on in our country. What is bothering me the most is what Christians are saying about those who they don’t agree with politically. Since I am  would consider myself an Independent/Unaffiliated I’m not taking sides one way or another.

 

I can’t even count how many horrible things that have been said about those who are Democrats. These comments are coming from those who profess to love the sinners, but hate the sins. It isn’t actually coming from one specific side, it is coming from so many. Some of the best God fearing friends I have and people of faith are Christians. Yep, there are even Pastors that are Democrats. Whew, I bet the earth shaked on that comment.

 

I don’t want anyone thinking I am siding with just the Democrats since all of this is coming from both parties and both should be ashamed of themselves. As a Christian I have a problem with comments such as these;

• Liberals are ruining America
• Liberals should go to Hell
• Liberals should die
• Liberals are evil
• Liberals are stupid/dumb
• Liberals are Hypocrite
• Democrats Affirm Everything God Hates
• Democrats they put the fear of God into you
• Democrats are “The Party That Booed God

Democrats are saying these things about Republicans: 

• Republicans are destroying America
• America’s entire system of governance is being threatened by Republicans
• Republicans are bad people
• Republicans should burn and die
• Republicans are working as the Devils Advocate
• Republicans are bad for the economics

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ere is this pastor that I have known since I was little and I am ashamed to even call him a pastor or a friend. I’m glad that he doesn’t live near me because I know I would have foot in mouth disease. As I read his comments, they make me wonder how many Christians believe the same thing he does. The comments that are posted on his Facebook wall demonstrate just how much hatred Christians have towards those who aren’t Republicans.

He has made comments on how all liberals have a special place in hell that is reserved just for them. If people don’t support Donald Trump then they are lovers of evil and are the same as Satan.  I called up a friend who is a democrat and a very strong Christian and told her what was said by this mutual pastor and she cried. She is a senior citizen and has been a Sunday School teacher for over 40 years. She doesn’t get online and she barely uses a cell phone. As I was reading what this pastor/friend said, her voice cracked. she couldn’t believe a Christian, much less a Pastor would say these things. She and I have always been able to sit down and have a conversation about our political views and our conversations has never gotten in the way of our friendship.

I asked her why she didn’t vote for Trump and I was surprised it was for the same reason why I didn’t. I refused to vote for him because of the way he treats women. She was and is still worried about her Social Security. She is in her 80’s and she doesn’t really have anything else.

Overall though for her it came down to the moral issue. I told her that was my main reason to. Morally, I couldn’t do it. The only thing I can say that was good about him and I think many Christians voted for him for this reason and that is because of the Supreme Court appointments. They also voted for him because of the Roe vs Wade case. Most Christians don’t want someone who is pro-choice. So, no-matter who is president, they wanted a pro-lifer in as the President. I get it, I totally understand that because I also believe that life begins at conception. But, how can someone vote for someone who has no respect for women. That’s what gets me.

My friend that goes to the Springs Church and I asked her if she was to hear that her pastor felt the same way as our mutual pastor friend, would she still go to church where she is at right now. She told me that she would stop going. The reason why which I totally get, because I feel the same way is that if you know the Pastor or church leader feels that some in the congregation are Satan’s spawn, then she would feel uncomfortable around them since they would think of her in that way just because she is a democrat or a “snowflake”. I hate that saying, not all democrats or independents are that thin skinned to think the world revolves around them. Meaning of Snowflke

I was talking to a number of people in private about this issue and how if I weren’t a Christian already, I would stay away from those people who spew hatred all over the place. I even talked to the person I am talking about and told him that what he is saying and doing would drive Christians away. I unfriended him on my Facebook and his view points actually make me sick to my stomach.

Even though he is retired now and not living around me, I want nothing to do with someone who is so filled with hatred. I would consider myself an Independent and I told him that I didn’t vote for Trump. I think that everyone has a right to vote for who they choose and for whatever reason that may be. I then went on to tell him that based on how he views anyone who doesn’t or didn’t vote for Trump must be Satan himself, then I have no room in my life for someone who feels that way.

I don’t think people should be acting the way they are right now and I don’t wish anyone any harm, not even Trump. Just because I voted for someone else, that doesn’t mean I am evil and the spawn of Satan. If my pastor felt this way about anyone at church that didn’t vote for the same person he did, I would no longer be going to church. Thankfully my pastor isn’t that way. He and I don’t always see eye to eye and that’s OK.

When I hear church leaders comment the way this retired pastor did, it makes me wonder who he is really serving. Is or does his church only have Republicans in it? Does those who attended his church put him up on the pedestal and think that he is just as good as God?

I don’t get into political conversations at church and I try to stay away from them for the most part. It’s as if there is a lynch mob mentality when it comes to who people voted for. And Lord help those who don’t agree that Donald is the epitome of all things good and righteous. I am being sarcastic, but it seems like for some that Trump can do nothing wrong. I think that all mankind does things wrong and I don’t trust any politician or those who think they have all of this power. I also don’t trust those who say, “believe me”. I have learned a long time ago that those who have to keep saying this, must be hiding something.

If it wasn’t for me wanting to vote in our state elections I would have voted for nobody for president since it doesn’t matter here in Utah. The race for president is called not even 5 minutes after the polls close. Nobody can tell me that my vote counts in Utah because it doesn’t. My vote does count for races in Utah though. When people say that it is important to go out and vote, let your voices be heard. Again, my thoughts are hogwash.  My vote won’t count in Utah unless we don’t have electoral college.

I have been holding my tongue on social media when it comes to all of the garbage that is being posted. It seems like only a very small amount is truth and people don’t bother checking to see if facts are facts. It is as if they are going for shock value alone and the truth doesn’t matter anymore.

When I see people post articles that says that they know it may not be true, but just in case it could be, they are sharing the story. Only to find that nothing was true about it and it is just shrugged off as something funny.

I can’t even count how many people I have placed on a restricted list on my Facebook. I didn’t block them since they are friends, but I refuse to listen to garbage and trashing of each other. If I was a democrat and I see what others say about them and they are Christians and pastors, I would stay away from those kind of people and I for sure would NEVER go to a church where people had that kind of vile hatred.

I’m beyond the whole “snowflake” conversation. Not all Democrats feels as if they are owed money and not all democrats are out there throwing temper tantrums. I actually have more friends that are Republicans that receive food stamp assistance, section 8 for housing, unemployment and they receive other welfare assistance. One person I have known for years can tell you every shortcut there is to get the most help from the government and she is a die-hard Republican and Trump supporter.

I am beginning to take things personal when it comes to the hatred people have towards one party or another. One of my long time friends that is also a Christian was talking to me about all of those ungrateful Democrats and how all of them should be sent back to Africa along with Obama since they must be Muslim like Obama presumably is, which I don’t think he is. But, any of those who didn’t vote for Trump should be sent back to Africa where they belong.

When I told them that I didn’t vote for Trump, they went on to assume I must be anti-American and that I didn’t believe in God.  Needless to say, they got an ear full. The sad part is that this is coming from a so-called friend that is Christian. They thought that since I am a Christian, I had to vote for Trump because all good Christians do that. I’m sorry, but I see nothing Christlike when it comes to this way of thinking.

I vote for the person, not the party. I really liked Kasich which is a Republican. His views line up with mine. Then they would say something to the effect of, “but you’re a Christian, you have to vote for him”. Just because I am a Christian, doesn’t mean I have to vote for him.  I can’t help but wonder what these people who say they ‘re Christian really are. I would say that I’m probably around 80 percent Republican and the other 20 percent is a mixture of this and that. Only God knows what is on their hearts and if they are believers or not.

I try to respect others and I feel that each and every person has a right to vote for who they choose like I said earlier. I honestly try to stay out of conversations when it comes to political views and for the most part, I don’t share images, memes or stories when it comes to politics. I don’t believe they are accurate at all.

My biggest issue I have is from those who are church leaders and supposed Christians. I can’t stand it when faith and politics comes into play. And it really bothers me the most when church leaders think it is OK to compare Democrats or others who don’t vote for Trump as Evil and Satan’s Spawn. Do they really see how un-Christlike they are. Some of the things that are being said reminds me of things that Westburo Baptist would say.

Is wish I still had the retired pastor on my Facebook so he would read this blog post. I don’t know if he subscribes to this blog or not, but I kind of hope so. I’m going to end this post since I am getting agitated and I now I’m repeating myself.

In closing, I just want to say that God loves all people and it doesn’t matter what political party you belong to. It only matters that you believe and have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.

I have been over the past couple of weeks stopped watching to much of the news. I pay attention, but it has been to distracting. I have found that I have been paying more attention to worldly things instead of the important things like my walk with Christ and doing what is important. Since there is so much of the fake stuff going on Facebook, I figured I can read all about it since Facebook has all the real news lol

Tonight I was watching “The Big Bang Theory”. I think this was the only one that I have seen that made me want to cry. If you don’t watch the Big Bang Theory it is about 4 nerds and a hot blonde. It is one of my favorite shows. The one I watched tonight on TBS was  where everyone was fighting and screaming and Sheldon was having a great deal of anxiety.

In this episode Leonard was upset with Penny because she was letting her ex-boyfriend come over and crash on her couch. Leonard already feels like he can’t compete for her love, even though they are dating. Click Here to watch the clip I am talking about in this blog post.

Sheldon didn’t have a normal childhood at all. His parents divorced and he never really had much of a relationship with his dad. With all of his friends fighting around him, he is feeling as if he is back at home.

With nowhere else to go since everyone was fighting Penny and Leonard found him at the comic book store on the floor surrounded by piles of comic books and toy robots. The whole image of a grown man sitting on the floor blocking everyone out because he thinks he is at fault and they will leave him like his dad left him.Leonard and Penny went to him in a parental kind of way and explained to him that even though they may fight on occasion that they will love still love him.

I totally get why he wanted to escape all of the fighting. Anyone who has grown up in  a hostile environment will know what it means to feel scared and alone. It isn’t just memories of childhood that has a way of flooding your memories, it also happens to those who may be in a bad marriage, relationship and other situations.

People say all the times that “sticks and stones with break your bones, but words won’t hurt you.” I totally disagree with that. Words have a way of killing a persons spirit and they are carried throughout your life.

Fighting Good Or Bad? 

I think it is healthy to argue, but not to the point of hurting each other. There is a difference between arguing and fighting. It’s better to let those around you know how you feel about something that has been bothering you. But, when it comes to holding onto those feelings for a long time will eventually blow up. When it gets to the point where you are being hateful and belittling someone, it is time to walk it out. I’m not the kind of person who lets things fester. It’s not a healthy option.

There have been times where I have tried to keep it inside and it turned out ugly. I ended up giving it to the person in full force. I hated myself for what I was saying, It has been over 20 yrs ago, but I can remember it like it was yesterday. Like volcano’s, they will sit there dormant for a long time. Every now and then, you will see a bit of smoke and then all of a sudden, things are getting ugly. Things eventually took a turn for the worst and we are no longer friends because I let things go on for to long.

While I was watching the news, they were doing a story about a 10 yr old child who was being bullied at his school. He ended up taking his own life. The parents walk into his bedroom and see this young boy hanging. Sheldon’s character on “The Big Bang Theory” has been bullied most of his young life. I was pleased to see the show tackling this difficult subject.

When children and adults are being bullied and put down, the child that is being hurt by words has a better than average risk of having depression, hostility, anxiety, bursts of anger and so on.

My grandson JJ has had a really difficult time at school. JJ is very smart and he has a heart of gold. JJ also has high functioning autism, so he doesn’t understand what all is being said or done. He doesn’t have friends per say. I would pick JJ up from school and I always made sure to ask him about how his day was. He would proceed to tell me that nobody likes him. As the tears flowed down his cheek he would make comments about how nobody would talk to him and his only friend during recess was a stick.

He would walk around the playground and never talked to anyone. He doesn’t know how to make friends. Most of the time he never got recess. He would sit in the office during recess and doing math problems and reading. I got to the point where I hated to pick him up and to ask him how his day was. The reason I say that is because he was always in tears. He didn’t get it.

On the way home he would see kids playing with other kids and I could hear sobbing in the back of the van. He wanted friends so much and he had none. I was genuinely worried about him. Jessica and Jason did everything they could do to help him. They took him to counseling, and would allow him to invite anyone to his birthday parties. Eventually they pulled him out of school. There was no choice in the matter.

As I was watching this episode, I couldn’t help but think about those parents who are hurting their kids mentally. When parents call their children horrible mean and nasty things, it is going to hurt them for a very long time. When a parent calls their child a F—— little Ba—r, then there is something wrong. My daughters remember all of the stupid things I have said and done. I have many regrets in my life.

Children are watching everything that is being said and done. What kind of example do you want to be to your children. If you want your children to grow up to be productive adults, then they need to learn what that means. If all you do is yell, scream and put them down, what kind of adult do you think they will turn out to be? If all you do is to do nothing and yell at your children, they will be the same way to their children. Remember little eyes see and little ears hear.

A good friend of mine got divorced because her spouse decided to cheat on her. Her family was torn apart. The children have been having problems adjusting to life in general. Her husband does nothing really to support the family. My friend does anything she can do to raise the kids. She has taken a second job to support the kids because her ex doesn’t do anything besides sitting on the computer and playing games while she goes out and works. So, her kids are watching what their mom and dad are doing. They are thinking it is OK to do nothing. It’s OK to have the mom do all of the work while he stays home.  Children watch everything around them.

Parents face all sorts of stress, and fighting is normal. Parents need to keep in mind that their children are watching and listening. In the next paragraph I will show you the effects of what some parents are doing to those who are listening and watching. Think about how much time your children spends with you.

Below is a list of some of the negative things that children may experience when they witness fights that hurt others and themselves. “Conflict is a natural part of life. I have heard parents and I have also thought that what I say and do doesn’t affect anyone. My kids don’t understand what is going on and they will get over it. That isn’t true, not all children do get over it. Many and maybe even most children will repeat what they have learned from others. It is a vicious cycle.

The fights that hurt kids — and parents — may have some or all of these negative features

• Hostility
• Either being bullied or him/her being the bully.
• Being physically aggressive
• Nonverbal expressions of hostility
• Withdrawn
• Feelings of sadness and fear
• They have a higher risk of anxiety and depression
• Confusion
• Conflict attracts their sense of security
• inability to identify and control emotions.

There are some arguments that actually helps them. I posted of few of the positive  things. 

• They learn how to compromise (not a doormat)
• Able to stand up for himself
• Usually they can look at the problem and solve it easier.
• Express themselves

As I was processing this particular episode of the Big Bang Theory, I heard a different meaning for the show. It was an eye opener when it comes to how you treat someone and that “words do hurt you!”

In Closing. Here is a video about a little boy who is wanting to be just like his dad. It’s by Rodney Atkins and called “Watching You”.