There are some people who like to complain about everything under the sun. I know I have my moments when I like to complain and whine to. I’m thinking more about those people and I know at least a couple that have nothing good to say at all. No matter what, it is bad or it is somebody else’s fault for them being in the situation they are in.
This is different to the every day complaining most people do. We all complain sometimes, about little things that happen to us, like being stuck in a traffic jam or being turned down for a job. However, because most of us are not truly unhappy we do not have the need to complain all the time.
It’s only natural that some people tend to complain more than others do. However, complaining is not always related to how pessimistic or unhappy a person is.
When I ask a constant complainer if there is anything that could make their situation better or that there are answers to their problems. They well comment something like this, ” Yeah, I know, but…” complain complain complain, etc. When I’m in my complaining mood and feel like I was treated unjustly, I have said this too. Eventually I come around and realize I was petty though.
I’ve tried to think about some of the reason why people have nothing better to do than complain all the time. I have thought about this for sometime now. Here is my list of what I think leads to constant complaining.
Realizing that they must complain because they are unhappy. They’re not satisfied with life. They are not getting what they need or want to be happy, so they complain. I know this sounds like a no brainier to some. They feel like they have to express their displeasure by complaining to others about their bad fortune. When people are that unhappy it does not really matter what happens in their lives, because they will always find something to complain about.
People who complain excessively are miserable and they take their misery out on EVERYONE. Some people complain a lot because it makes them feel better. These people are not always unhappy people, but by complaining about every little thing that bothers them, they actually feel better. In other words, they burden other people with all their problems and worries, making those people feel bad, while they in turn end up feeling great.
When I complain, I try to think about how it makes me feel when someone is constantly complaining and try to put myself in a better frame of mind. Now if someone wakes me up before my time has come, that is a risk factor on their part, lol.
So what does a person do if they are around a constant complainer since you can’t shoot them, lol. At-least you should never threaten anyone with bodily harm even if you would like to. I guarantee you will have others complaining or praising you even more.
I came across a website called Justgriping.com.
When I think about the times I have complained, I have found that it isn’t received well by others. Many times they have enough stuff going on than to listen to my grumbles. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are times when idiot drivers will get me very ticked off. Or when people say or do something offensive and I want to act in a not so Christian way.
I try not to go into very much of my problems because I know that there are so many others that have it much worse than I ever could or do. Plus, I noticed that when I start off my day in a bad mood, it continues all day long and that isn’t right for me to bring others down around me. Those who I trust alot may hear more of my complaints, but I try to keep that at a minimum.
With my husband, he gets to hear many of my complaints and vise versa. I think everyone needs to have someone that it is safe to vent too just for the sake of getting something off your chest. Like when he gets stuck in California, he is upset. There isn’t anything I can do, but he needs to blow off steam and I try not to take it personal.
Everyone needs someone to talk to that is safe and trusted. But for those who always complain and nothing is ever good, it can be taxing and downright depressing to hear day in and day out.
There are a lot of solutions on how to handle complainers and they all seem a more nice than the way I handle them. The way I handle them is by listening and trying to give solutions. If they can’t or refuse to see past their problem and I can tell they don’t want answers or solutions, I just step back and remove myself from the situation. Even though I do keep them in my life, because I know that I may not be the right person to help them. But the constant complaining can drive a huge wedge in a friendship or relationship.
Just last night I was watching a video about heath-care in Ghana. What they have offered to them is minimal to say the least. But still here in St. George or the good old USA, people complain about having to wait 15 minutes to see a Dr that is free to them since they go to the Free Clinic. On the video they were showing how only the well to do and the government officials receive care and if a person is lucky someone will have mercy on them.
There was a guy that was in a motorcycle accident that had to wait two weeks for treatment. And then once he got to a facility, they only had room for him in the hall way. Someone would check on him, but that was it.
It drives me nuts that people complain about the care they get here. When I look at what others get in other places in the world, I feel blessed. We are a very pampered country in many ways. Yet, we complain when get don’t get what we want right then and there. Or if we have been wronged. I have wronged many people in the past and thankfully they have forgiven. We all have hurt others and yet when people focus only on themselves and what they don’t have, it actually makes me sick.
There are some I want to and have told them to look at all they have and that they are lucky. But , then I hear, “Yeah, but…”
Watch for my next post that will be on Blessings. I have a lot more to feel blessed about than to ever complain about.