Everything Will Be OK Cliche

Dog_Picture_619I must be on a roll when it comes to cliche’s lol. Here is my third installment of cliche’s. This is one that I have been guilty of too and it actually drives me crazy. It is the cliche or phrase “everything will be OK!” What if it won’t be OK? And according to who is it going to be OK with? This is one of those phrases I have a difficult time with because of my own situation.

First, I want to start with a positive message on this saying. Everything’s Gonna Be All Right! It may look bad at this very moment or at the end of the day, but in the end, things are going to work out just like God has planned! And, you may ask, what has God planned?

He has planned nothing but the best for His children, Rom. 8:28; 2 Cor,4:17; Jer. 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”

I’m guessing that almost everyone has heard or have said this phrase at some point in their life. I had to look up this cliche to understand it more and found it interesting when it says that it is what is called a reassuring cliche. They are often given out automatically and a sort of a pattern response. A couple of other cliches that are similar to this one is “keep your head up” and “chin up.”

Its-Ok-to-Not-be-Ok-1Now I know that everything will be OK for the most part. I do trust that God will take care of me and that things work out in the end. But, I have to say that I’m not always OK with the way things work out. It may be for the greater good, but good for who? I would say that there are times when it is OK, to not be OK.

I can get to be a bit sarcastic on this topic because I have no patience for waiting for things to work out and to be OK. And there are days that I have no intention of “keeping my head up.” That just aggravates me to no end when that isn’t something I am prepared to do.

My parents and siblings have had a very difficult time. Over the past year or so things with my parents have gotten really rough. They don’t have a personal relationship with God and as far as I know, they have never accepted Christ. My parents are in their 70’s aokCorral_1622167cnd they have my brother who is almost 50 that is living with them (that’s a whole other topic or book) . As a Christian I know without any reservations that unless they know Christ, it will not work out. Growing up there has always been anger, fighting and wondering if we would be hurt or killed during some of these battles. It is like living at the OK Corral and having nightly shoot outs.  After I get off the phone with them I can’t help but wonder if it will be OK for them. So I pray and pray some more. That is all that I know that I can do.

One of the things that is awesome though about this cliche or phrase is that it is true. Since I have an abundant amount of faith in God, I know that everything will be fine and that things work out. When I am going through something or watch others struggle, I have to remind myself and open myself up to prayer and Gods Word. Because I can guarantee ya that if I was left to my own accord, things would NOT be

OK! They would be a disaster in the making. When I look around at the vast amount of troubles and worries that people go through I can’t help but wonder why. This is one of those cliches/phrases that kinda pushes me to to the point of wondering why and when did I become like Job. In my logical part of my brain and heart I realize that there is going to be times when our troubles hit us like a ton of bricks, knocking us down and causing us injury. But God can bring us to a place where we are stronger in our lives through these burdens and trials. As I said, this is my logical way of thinking. Depending on my day is how I see things. My human thoughts and emotions can easily get clouded if I don’t stay grounded in the Word of God.

Clair Rose Brinkerhoff
Clair Rose Brinkerhoff

One of many things I struggle with is knowing what to say when a parent looses a child or they lost everything they have. I know for myself if someone told me that “everything will be OK” I would go ballistic. My next blog cliche post is on how “time heals all things”. I don’t know about that. One of my dear friends lost their lovely daughter on her 30th birthday. Clair Rose was murdered by a hit and run driver. She still struggles and is trying to ease that pain. How do you tell a grieving parent or someone who doesn’t know God that “everything will be OK?” How do you tell a family that their 3 yr old child is going to be dying of cancer and to make the most of the little time they have?  For them, everything isn’t OK. Yes! Life does go on, but depending on where a persons faith is, is dependent on how you can console them. Everything may not be OK for them.

One of the biggest worries that fills our minds is about the future. We spend much of our time worrying about the here and now and forget about trusting in God’s promises. I have been guilty of this on more than one occasion. I do find it interesting on the things I worry about. I don’t worry about my health because I have no fear of death. But I do worry about those who don’t know God. I worry about the things that I can’t control, but I try to. Believe me, it doesn’t work and it doesn’t change anything. When someone tells me that “everything is going to be OK, I want to dummy slap them. Of course I wouldn’t literally, but I have that desire.  This is something I have to work on and pray about constantly. Only because of God will things work out for the future!

“There will be good times and there will be bad times in the future, but through them all, remember that we serve a God Who is already in the future and He has promised to go with us there to lead us safely through those highs and lows. This is one of those promises that I hold near and dear to me. In my own life I have witnessed this over and over again. Maybe this is why I have a love/hate relationship with the book of Job.

Job was a man after God’s own heart and he was allowed to tested by Satan. God allowed Satan to destroy Job’s life. Job teaches us that there is a great deal more going on than just what we can see in our lives, and that God does oversee it all for His own glory. During his trials Job was feeling weak. Both his body and his spirit were weak.

Job felt as if he could not even control his own words. After all the testing was done ajob-wifend he remained faithful to God. Things worked out and he was blessed even more than he was before he was allowed to be tested. Everything was going to be more than OK for Job as it will be for us if we trust in Christ alone.

As I close this topic, I just want to say that no matter what the future holds, God has promised us that He will go with us and will lead us safely through it.

Hebrews 13:5 – Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”




Is I Love You a Cliché?

Yesterday I did my blog on “you’re in my thoughts and prayers” cliché. Today I am going to write on how the term ‘I love You” has become a cliché.

loveyaThe word “Love” is used in many different ways. The word is defined as an extreme affection towards someone or something; however this is not the case in which it is used by most. The phrase “I love you” doesn’t seem to have any special meaning anymore. Seems like everyone loves songs, food, trees, yellow roses, Facebook and just about anything else under the sun.

I am guilty of this myself. I use the word love randomly without a lot of emotion connected to it. I started noticing this when I am on the phone with someone. As I get ready to hang up, I will say, “talk to you later, love ya.” I have even used the term “I love the Phoenix Suns”. Now in actuality it isn’t that I love them, but I enjoy watching them and they are my favorite basketball team.

Love isn’t an overnight thing. Love is developed over a period of time. I guess for me, when I think of the worldly view of love it means that I would do anything for that person. If a train was coming at them, I would throw them out of the way and be smooshed like a bug.
Thankfully we have no train tracks here in St. George. I would give my life for those I love without hesitation. Love is also where you think about the other person and can’t possibly see them not being in your life. Love can never be duplicated and love above all things is the greatest of all.

GodisLove_slide1x_365_y_273Now, I want to cover Agape Love. This is the most important kind of love. This is the kind of love we only can get from God.

John 14:21 – Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.

Definition: Agape is selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, the highest of the four types of love in the Bible.

This Greek word and variations of it are found throughout the New Testament. Agape perfectly describes the kind of love Jesus Christ has for his Father and for his followers:

As a Christian, Agape means the unearned love God had for people – a love so great that God was willing to send his only begotten son to suffer and die on our behalf.

John 3:16 – For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

f6eedeff4528177d8b277fa10ab88ccfMany people can quote 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. It is the most used Bible Verse when it comes to marriages. I just want to close this post with this verse.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, “Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense. Love keeps no score of wrongs; does not gloat over another’s sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing love cannot face; there is not limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance. In a word, there are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love.”