Putting too much out on Facebook

ImageFacebook, Facebook, Facebook- Facebook is an online social network that includes status updates, picture sharing, news feeds, and so on. The user controls who can see and not see what is put on their wall. They can block people they don’t want to have access and allow those they want. You can select the recipients and decide who to share what information with. You may be wondering why I’m doing a post on this and you will soon understand. 

On my Facebook page I have 409 friends and many pictures of my kids and friends. I have a number of groups set up that include my church friends, online friends, haveners and so on. When I post certain things that are meant for my church friends, those posts only goes to those I have listed under that group. If I’m playing games, or I should say my husband is under my name, all game posts goes to that group of friends. I know many on my facebook page, but not all. And not all of those on my Facebook would be interested in what is going on here in my home town or what funny little thing my grand kids may have said or done for the day. Even though I don’t know why they wouldn’t want to know, lol. 

The reason I say this is because of privacy and what I would call rage posts or anger posts. I have a number of friends on my Facebook page that will post pictures or make a status comment. And in turn they may get a negative response from others about said post. When you post things for all of Facebook land to see and all of your friends, there is bound to be responses and not always are they what you are looking for. 

If someone posts a topic or shares a picture and you have opened it up for all to see, then logically one would think that someone will comment. I know I will comment on pictures or status’s. I may not on all of them, but some I do. When I post a status or a picture I understand that people will say what is on their mind, even if I don’t like it. It is the same with my blogs. The topic of this post isn’t about one particular person or a group. It is a general topic of if you don’t want people to comment the way you want them to, then don’t post it. If it is intended for certain people, then send to only those people or in a private message. Facebook is a social network and one shouldn’t expect much privacy when they choose to share what is on your mind or in your life with those on Facebook. 

I made a comment on a article on yahoo the other day about sharing of photos. The woman was upset because her picture was shared with others without her permission. In my opinion if she didn’t want the world to see it, then she should never have posted it. There are guidelines you have to follow when signing up for Facebook and other networking sites. I’m pretty sure most don’t read the small print. My comment to the article was that people are too laxed. There are more times than not that I can find information out about someone I don’t know by looking up their Facebook page. 

There is critical information that you should never share on Facebook. Some of the main no brainer things would be telephone numbers, addresses, where you work, birthdays, social security numbers and so on. But sharing information has lots of risks including your name which can be accessed by others and your profile can be viewed. Anyone can get valuable information and private photos from your profile — ultimately getting you in big trouble. 

I was able to show a friend just how easy it was to find out information about one of her friends. She was up for the challenge. I went to her page and located the friend. Her friend had on her profile where she worked at and little fun tidbits about her kids graduations. Her date of birth was on the page as was her place of birth. There was information about her anniversary and her husband on the page. Her friend wanted another friend to reach her, so she gave out her telephone number on a post, not thinking anything about it and later gave directions to her house. I didn’t know this person and she lived in another state. If I was an online stalker, I would have it made. Her friend allowed anyone to view her information. She had no idea who I was, but I knew who she was. 

What I’m saying is that be careful what you put out there because you may not like what the reply or the outcome may be. 


Things to Do to Protect Yourself; 

  • Always monitor pictures that other people put of you and tag you on. You can see the tagged pictures of you by going to your profile, click on “Photos”- you should see “Photos of You” and the number of tagged pictures.
  • Do not post pictures of yourself under the influence of any type of substance. This refers to pictures such as: Dancing-on-the-bar pictures or candid shots of the last time you got hammered with your pals on happy hour. Don’t be caught with drugs, especially if you’re underage because anyone can just print out the picture and show it to your parents or principal.
  • Be cautious of the statuses, photos, videos, etc. you post if your coworkers, colleagues, or even your boss is friends with you. If possible, avoid sending out or accepting friend requests from those who know you from work, especially your boss. Granting them full access to view your personal life will only have negative effects on your job.
  • Avoid putting your phone number, mailing address, or your home address in your profile. People often use words such as pet’s names or numbers as passwords, so it is not recommended to publish them on-line.
  • Never post information regarding an upcoming vacation or trip as your status. Doing so is just asking for your house to be robbed. If you must post photos and every detail of your two-week trip to France, do so after you return home, not before or during your vacation.
  • Change your password every so often. Don’t make your password something obvious such as your birthday or mother’s maiden name. Try to have at least one capital letter, one lowercase letter, two numbers, and a symbol. The longer and more complicated the password, the safer you are from getting your account hacked. Always remember to log out after you’re finished with Facebook, especially on a shared computer.

So Much Hatefulness and Mean Spiritness

ImageThis has been a strange month for me and so many things going on. Not necessarily with me, but in general. 

What I have been thinking about doing is get a different Facebook page with only those that are drama free in my life. Or for the most part. I guess there is nobody 100 percent like me, which is a good thing I guess. There has been so much anger, hatred and people wanting to destroy other peoples lives. I have seen more horrible images of adult material, f bombs dropped left and right and horrible things being said against one another, politicians and God. 

When I come on Facebook I want to be able to talk to my friends, share pictures and have as much of a positive experience as I can. It doesn’t bother me when people post funny things like my friend Curtis does. He has a way of lightening the mood on Facebook. I don’t mind videos and pictures of faith or cute little animals. It’s the hatefulness, anger and just negativity that isn’t from one particular person, but a number of people. 

All the fighting and mean spiritedness gives me a headache and just not needing that right now… And many times it is from those who I may know a little or not at all. So I will see what I’m going to do on this. 

So I have decided to do a Sandie needs a break page. Or at least I’m thinking on a Sandie needs a break page. 

Children Fighting Cancer

This has been one of those weeks that is hard to put into words. There has been some horrible things going on around the world. The shootings in Connecticut  the stabbings in China, Father carving pentagram into his songs back on 12/12/12, and the sad thing is these all involved innocent children. The Mayans said the world is suppose to end. I guess in some way it did for all these innocent lives. They are no longer in this world.

Then yesterday I open up Facebook and see the sweet faces of the children who have lost their battles because of cancer. The latest one that past away that I pray for is little 3 yr old Cole. I can’t begin to understand why all these horrible things are happening in our world. The one thing I can rely on is that one day Christ will come back again.

Anymore it is not cool turning on the TV or Facebook… It’s very sad when you join a Facebook page to pray for a child’s family. Then they send request to pray for other children that are fighting cancer and their families. Now I have 30 or more kids that are dying from childhood cancer. In the last 30 days about 10 of those children have earned their wings. I’m going to post the pictures of some that are needing prayers and those that have earned their wings. I want to warn you that this may break your heart. I feel so bad for all of them and their parents.

For those who haven’t been to the Jessie Rees Foundation- Never Ever Give Up, you should go and join it. They are needing people to join their page so they can raise more friends to help them raise money. Click here to watch her video and the reason they do what they do.

On a more positive note I would like to offer a ray of hope to those who are reading this. I know that there is a place much better and that Jesus died for our sins that that one day all the tears will be wiped from our eyes. When I think of the end times and since I’m a Christian, I know that things will be perfect. Even though I know that there is a heaven and that these children are with Jesus, for some reason that doesn’t make it easier to handle. And if I’m thinking or feeling this way I can’t even begin to understand how the parents are feeling.

These children are in my thoughts and there are so many others that I didn’t mention here… All of these children and their families could use your prayers.

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