My husband and I were talking about Mickey Dolanz from the Monkeys and how he is now 72 yrs old and how old he is getting. Then the conversation went on to how Let’s Make a Deal came out 51 yrs ago in 1963. I can see where this is headed. He is treading on dangerous territory for sure.
I was born in 1963 and when people ask me how old I am, I always say 22. He then went on to say how some people are delusional when it comes to age, with the daggers in his eyes looking in my direction.
I then proceeded to tell him about a dear lady I knew named Mattie Bennett. She would tell everyone, me included that she was 16. Obviously she was in her 60’s or 70’s. Mattie explained to me that she tells everyone she is 16 because in her mind she is young, even though the outside and her body is old. Once we convince ourselves that we are old and can’t do anything, then like might as well be sitting in a rocking chair on the porch and watch life pass you by. If he wants to sit in a rocking chair and act like a old crotchety and nasty old man, then so be it. As you may see, this is one of my hot topics.
While we all age, keep in mind that I did not say I am getting old. I am simply aging. When someone tells me that I need to act my age or admit my age, I wonder why would I want to do that.
My husband is someone who I would say acts his age. He is like his dad and has the mindset of a cranky old man in many ways. He grumbles over the same things his dad did and has the same mannerism. My mother in law lived with us after my father in law passed away. She would make comments on how much Chuck is like his dad and worse in many ways. Don’t get me wrong, there are good things about Chuck, but acting like his dad is NOT something I like and something he shouldn’t be comfortable with.
I would never want to return to life at 22. I am OK where I am now. But I refuse to grow old mentally. Physically, it doesn’t matter. We all age and all will die. This isn’t about aging. Once we give into the I’m too old for that mentality, then life passes you by. There are many people I know that do that and they are unhappy people and do nothing but complain about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING.
There are many I know that are aged, but don’t let that stop them. Just because a person is getting older it doesn’t mean they have to be old. It is all in the mindset.
There are some things though that people that are aged shouldn’t do. Really it could be people of any age. One of the things that bugs me is when I see someone that is 70 dressed like a teenager. There is such a thing as being tasteful and using good judgement.
If people think I am delusional when I say I am 22, then that is fine. They can think what they want and they can live their lives the way they want to. As for me, I will be 22 until I turn 23. If people have a problem, that is their problem, not mine.When people say they don’t understand why I feel the way I do, well, that is OK too. They don’t need to understand!!!
Now I’m done ranting. At least for now 🙂
2 thoughts on “Getting Older – A Bit of A Rant”
I have a son born on my birthday. When he turned 29, I told him he was going to have a difficult time explaining how his mother could be the same age he was! That was 31 years ago…. I have a little different take on birthdays that a lot of folks have. Plus I’ve changed my attitude about being the same age as my son.. Having outlived so very many of my relatives and life long friends, when some one says to me “I just want to ignore my birthdays from now on,” I want to tell them this: Not me! I celebrate each and every one, and if they ask my age, I tell the truth-and usually add that it is only my chronological age.
Presents or cards aren’t that important, but a phone call from my kids, grand kids, and friends is sooo very precious to me!
God has given me a wonderful gift: Health.. He wants me to use it to help folks that have their own great gifts, but physical health not being one of them. I do this with gladness and gratitude.
Yep, I agree with you about clothing. Having said that, I still like to live in jeans and tee shirts in summer, sweatshirts and jeans in winter, and if I’m still alive at 90, I will STILL want my jeans! On the opposite end of the age thing, why would any young woman think that showing her bra straps and/or her belly button( surrounded by muffin tops) be “cool”? Or a guy with his pants so loose, part of his you know what is there for the world to see? I sometimes have to really talk to myself when I see either. I want to go up to the female and snap her bra straps. The temptation to walk up behind the male, and yank on his belt loops, revealing the rest of his you know what, is very overpowering at times.
Oh, well, I guess the rest of the world just won’t conform to Shirley. Come to think of it, that’s more than likely a very, very good thing.
JJ asks me how I can be younger than his mom and it is a simple answer. I am younger because I said so, lol. Of course he knows better. But he is smart enough to keep it to himself 🙂
I am with you on the jeans and t-shirt and I don’t get why people think it looks good to have it all hung out. I do think they are a bit delusional. But I will let them live in their delusions and give them a stupid look. I had to laugh on the belt loop. I have been so tempted myself.
I like that you don’t conform to the ways of the world. That is a good thing since we know that we are only passing through.