Uncle John’s 4 ply Bathroom Reader

ImageOK! This is something we all do and I know it is a weird topic. But today my post is about going to the bathroom. I’m not talking about if you have to go number 1 or 2. I’m talking about that special time alone unless you have a young child. The restroom is the one place where you can tune the world out and have some private time.

Certainly, using the bathroom as a sanctuary rather than for its traditional purposes is not a new idea. The folks who publish The Old Farmer’s Almanac still embrace the annual’s history as a commode companion. Notice the hole punched through the spine. That dates back to a time when the magazine would hang on a hook in outhouses.

About 100 years ago, toilet paper didn’t exist. Folks resorted to old newspapers and catalogues for, er, hygiene. That just might explain how the tradition of bathroom reading started.

In my bathroom I have a variety of reading materials for those who want to rest in there and take a break without anyone bothering them. Education doesn’t end in the classroom you know? Recently I found a gem of a book for those of us who like to take our time and read in the bathroom and that book would be called Uncle John’s 4 ply Bathroom Reader. There are all kinds of nifty facts in there. It is a fact filled almost 900 page reader. Nobody can say there isn’t something interesting in the bathroom besides the kind of toilet paper we buy.

You can learn all kinds of things while sitting on the commode, lounging in the tub or hiding from those you want a break from. Here are some of the interesting things you can read about while on the pot;

Prime-Time Proverbs

On Politics– ‘When I was in third grade, there was a kid running for office. His slogan was: “Vote for me and I’ll show you my wee-wee”. He won by a landslide.” Dorothy from Golden Girls

It’s the Law

  • In Logan County, Colorado, it is illegal to kiss a sleeping woman.
  • It’s illegal to ride a camel on Nevada Highways.
  • You’re breaking the law if you are wearing ‘form-fitting” pants in Lewes, Delaware
  • Kansas law prohibits catching fish with your bare hands.

Myths America

The Myth; The Liberty Bell got its name when it was rung on July 4, 1776 to commemorate declaring independence.

Background: The take was invented by writer George Lippard in his 1847 book, Legends of the American Revolution.

The Truth: The Liberty Bell was installed in Philadelphia in 1753- 23 yrs before the colonists rebelled- and it has nothing whatsoever to do with the Revolution. its nickname, “Liberty Bell,” was coined by abolitionists in 1839. They were referring to the end of slavery in America, not freedom from England.


  • “lunacy” refers to the Roman moon goodness, Luna.
  • More children are born after new and full moons than any other time.
  • The term lunatic fringe was coined by Teddy Roosevelt, who was describing some of his followers in the Bullmoon party during the 1912 presidential elections.

Tissue Talk

Of course I wouldn’t leave tissue talk out of this post. Since we are discussing our time in the bathroom. Here are some interesting and not so interesting facts about the very tissue we wipe our bums with.

According to a 1991 survey by the Scott Paper Company:

  • You can gauge a person’s education by whether they read in the bathroom, More than two-thirds of people with a masters degrees and doctorates read in the stall, the survey shows. Only one in two high school grads read while in the bathroom, and 56 percent of those with college degree’s do.”
  • Fifty-four percent of Americans fold their toilet tissue neatly while 35 percent wad it into a ball before using it.
  • 7% steal rolls of toilet paper.
  • More than 60 percent prefer that their toilet paper roll over the top, 29 percent from the bottom. The rest don’t care.

Left Out

According to Why do Clocks Run Clockwise, and Other Imponderables, here’s why toilet plus handles are on the left side.

‘Most early flush toilets were operated by a chain above the tank that had to be fulled down by hand. Almost all of the chains were located on the left side of the toilet, for the user had more leverage when pulling with the right hand while seated.

‘When the smaller handles near the top of the tank were popularized in the 1940’s and 1950’s, many were fitted onto the existing toilets than equipped with pull chains. therefore, it was cheaper and more convenient to place the new handles where they fitted standard plumbing and fixtures.”

if you are interested in getting your own copy of Uncle Johns 4 ply Bathroom Reader, you can get it at Barnes and noble or Amazon.

Here is what Amazon.com says about this book…

Here’s a potpourri of stimulating reading for moments when nothing but the most absorbing material will do! No more frantic searches at the last minute for that perfect magazine article. No agonizing choices between light reading and the serious stuff. This 4-ply reader has it all: entertainment, humor, education, trivia, science, history, pop culture…and more! Of course, it’s even divided by length—you can spend a minute with the Quickies, relax with Normal-Length articles, or really get comfortable with Long Items.

With UNCLE JOHN’S 4-PLY BATHROOM READER strategically placed in your home, you’ll settle in happily and read about:
  • The Origins of Common Words and Phrases
  • The 7 Wonders of the Ancient World
  • The Real Difference Between Burger King and McDonald’s
  • Elvis’s Letter to Richard Nixon
  • The Curse of King Tut
  • What’s in a Twinkie
  • Bizarre Lawsuits

For years, the Bathroom Reader’s Institute has researched your bathroom reading habits in an attempt to understand and serve the interests of America’s forgotten readers. Enjoy

There is one last thing I want to add if you are at my house reading Uncle Johns Bathroom Reader, Please be sure to wash your hands and do not spread germs or other unmentionable things to others who may want to pick up some reading materials while sitting on the throne or trying to get a few minutes of quiet time.

Rough Night- Dogs and Pain

I have been having a lot of problems sleeping at night. Mostly due to my medical problems. Between the not being able to breath when I sleep on the wrong side to the pain I have all the way through the night, it has been kinda rough. I think I’m going to talk to my Dr on Monday to see if we can do something about that. They have changed my meds a few times and have come out to try to bust up a blood clot. Tonight though I have more than the normal problems of getting to sleep. And that is three reasons. The reasons are my dogs.

Our boxer Patsy doesn’t usually sleep on our bed. Parker and Jasper will sneak on their throughout the night. For some reason I have all three on my bed and I have maybe 12 inches of my mattress where I can sleep. Patsy wanted to be right up next to where I am. I think she can tell when I’m not feeling good and having a difficult time. Now Jasper he is different. He thinks he is the king dog of the group. He is my pug and there are times when I go to sleep that I forget to turn off my TV. I did get to doze off for about an hour while my IV fluids was running and then a dog and food came on the TV and then Jasper started barking and scared the life out of me. So, it is 4:14 in the morning and I can’t sleep at all due to dogs, breathing and pain. Ughhh… I think I’m getting physically exhausted and not sure I can do too many more nights of not sleeping.

Now, I’m going to go back to bed and see if I can get some sleep. Not sure when I will get to sleep…

Really Wanting a Roadtrip

ImageRoad-trips, aren’t they great? I love a good road-trip even if it is just for the day or a few hours.

When I go on a road-trip it doesn’t have to be across the country. It could be a short little jaunt to Zion or one of the lakes around my little town in the canyons. There are so many wonderful destinations that would take two hours or less. I don’t know many other places that have the beauty like St. George does. Here are some of the wonderful places around me that can be seen and enjoyed.

  • Zion National Park- 1 hour away
  • Pine Valley- 45 minutes
  • Snow Canyon- 15 minutes
  • Gunlock State Park- 20 minutes
  • Grafton Ghost Town- 30 minutes
  • Cedar City- less than an hour
  • Grand Canyon – 2 hour drive
  • Las Vegas, NV- 2 hours
  • Valley of Fire- Less than 2 hours

These are just a few of the great places that would make for a short road trip. Not always do I like to stick around town. I have yet to go to Valley of Fire. For me when I go on a road trip whether it is close to home or out of town, it is a time to get some me time.

Anymore due to my health problems, I have to take someone with if it is going to be too much of a drive. Which kinda defeats me wanting to get some me time. I’m pretty much at the mercy of others and since it is their time, I can’t always go where I want. There are times I have no idea where I want to go, I just go. OK, so off that pity party now, lol.

This is a picture of the Supermoon that I took here in St. George, Utah on June 23rd, 2013

Since I got my new camera I have found that I love taking pictures of nature. Photography has opened my world up to new possibilities. I didn’t know I was fully interested in photography, but it has. From the time I got my camera, I have seen wonders and miracles that God created. The very first time I tried to shoot pictures of the moon, I was hooked. I had no idea my camera could shoot the whole moon and see the craters on the moon. I impressed myself and I am still amazed.

My intention with getting a better camera was to take pictures of my grand-kids, video them too. I do websites and thought it would be cool to take my own pictures and not worry about copy writes. It has turned into a pretty serious hobby and it is awesome that others are letting me know how good my pictures are.

So now I’m thinking on this road trip and wanting to go to someplace or anyplace that I haven’t been to. Even though I’m not a morning person, I think it would be awesome to take some sunrise pictures. My brain has been thinking on the Valley of Fire lately. Right now though Valley of Fire will be majorly hot. But it would be nice to just take time and take pictures of some place new. I know it isn’t feasible to do that right now. It isn’t like others would like to just take off and go with me on an adventure that may lead to an adventure in photography.

I did tell Chuck that I want to go to Vegas and look at some of the attractions that we normally don’t go to. We aren’t gamblers, but there are some interesting sites in Vegas. And not all things that happen in Vegas stays in Vegas. When we go, it is to go to a Dr’s appointment or drive through at 5 am to get out of the traffic as we head to Phoenix. There are many places that we haven’t explored. If we can get a good deal on a couple nights and he can get a night off we plan on doing that.

I have been hankering for a road-trip though. And as time goes on, it is getting stronger. I have talked to my daughter about going. I don’t think she likes it though when I pull off somewhere and I can spend hours taking pictures and waiting for that special moment or the right opportunity to get the perfect shot. Jessica would go and for the things close to home, she has been great about taking me or going with me. So I do appreciate ya Jessica in case you read this.

Eventually I will make it to Indiana. I really want to go back there and visit long lost relatives that I haven’t seen in almost 40 yrs. My husband wants to go with and I can’t go myself since I’m on home health and have to do IV meds, oxygen and such. Since he didn’t get his vacation time this year and pay, that is pretty much out of the question for him to go on any kind of vacation or road trip. This is really crappy considering it has been years since we have been able to take a real vacation. I’m guessing because of that me going to Indiana is going to be out of the question again this year.

My immediate goal is to go on a short road trip, with a fully charged battery for my camera. I want to crank up the music in my car and just go. I don’t want others to tell me where I can go and when to come back. Even though It can only be an overnight-er at best.

For me the best way for me to clear my mind and life is to just drive or go somewhere. I do hope I get to do this. I don’t know how reasonable it is though since someone would have to go with and as I said before, it isn’t like people have that same desire, objective, time and money to do this.

This is the cross located at Point Loma Nazarene University in California… Simply beautiful

On my agenda when it cools off and Chuck can get some time off or some vacation pay, I want to go to Point Loma. It is by  San Diego California. They have the most beautiful college that over looks the ocean. There is navel yards, light houses, the ocean, and the Veterans Cemetery. Also while we are there, I would really like to go to the Holocaust Museum. I believe we need to remember what happened and the millions murdered by pure evil. This museum is in LA. I know someone with a time share there, so that would help. The only way this is going to happen though is if Chuck gets some time to do it and gets his paid vacations. I won’t even go into that whole mess, it ticks me off.

So, I’m going to sign off now and think about how I can go road tripping and who can go with me on it. If I don’t sign off on this, it will turn into a vent over vacation pay and no time off to do anything.

Firestorm for Paula Deen

ImageYep! I guess I will join with the many others that are on the Paula Deen bandwagon. If ya all haven’t heard this she has said something in her past that is coming back to haunt her. She said the “N” word and some other things. Now, I really like Paula Deen and I really feel for her right now. She has apologized and was asked point-blank if she has ever used the “N” Word…

My personal feelings are that nobody should use the “N” word, the “F” word or so on. I think it is  terrible and just shows the mentality of the person using it.  I guess this is kinda personal for me because growing up we used the “N” word when we would go to the store to ask for Brazil Nuts. I never realized till many years later that they weren’t called “N” toes. Also growing up it was very common to hear others around me call fixing things with baling wire and string a way of “N” rigging. As I got older, I realized that it was wrong and hurtful to those around me and I made sure to correct myself.

Then there is the”F” word. The reason I bring this up is that in my past, I never seen anything wrong with using the “F” word or whatever else that would be considered cursing. My husband was in the Army and I worked at a truck stop and it was common to talk like a sailor and never thought anything of it. That was until I was in a restaurant and nobody else was talking like I was and God decided I needed to hear how bad it sounded. I made a decision at that point to not swear because it wasn’t the right thing to do.

I bring these things up because these are things from my past. And thankfully my past is my past. These things aren’t a part of my life now and haven’t been for almost 19 years. If I were to be judged on these times that I used this language, then I would be on the cross with Jesus Christ. I knew I was guilty and was in the wrong at some point. Now I did make sure to correct my way of talking and haven’t gone back to using this language. I find that I get pretty angry when people only know how to use the “F” bomb or other colorful language. Maybe that is because I know how wrong it is and how bad it sounds. At least for me it does.

Now, back to Paula Deen. She has asked for forgiveness and knew what she said was wrong. Should we condemn her or should we forgive her. I have chosen to forgive her. I have no room to judge her because I have made my own set of mistakes. The time Paula Deen was asked about using the “N” word was from the 1980’s. That was a long time ago and her shows came on much later than that. People do change and grow from the lessons they have learned. I know I have and Paula is a human who says things that shouldn’t be said and admitted to them.

One thing I never understood though is why is it OK for blacks to use the “N” word and not whites. I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way, but it does make me wonder why there is a difference. I do feel many times the race card comes out when it isn’t about race. Sometimes it is upbringing, peers, not knowing the difference or so on. I know there have been times I have said things and didn’t understand what I was saying. Of course I was much younger and have gotten better at knowing what to say and not say. I do still have my stupid moments though, lol

Then I wonder how many of us would have a job or friends if we were judged on every single thing we said in the past.

I guess I will end this post with this thought and hopefully half the world doesn’t try to condemn me like they have Paula. My final thought is that it is better to forgive then to hate. You can get further with forgiveness than being hateful.  I think awareness is very important, but is there really a need to have a lynch mob go after Paula Deen? I say NO!

Putting too much out on Facebook

ImageFacebook, Facebook, Facebook- Facebook is an online social network that includes status updates, picture sharing, news feeds, and so on. The user controls who can see and not see what is put on their wall. They can block people they don’t want to have access and allow those they want. You can select the recipients and decide who to share what information with. You may be wondering why I’m doing a post on this and you will soon understand. 

On my Facebook page I have 409 friends and many pictures of my kids and friends. I have a number of groups set up that include my church friends, online friends, haveners and so on. When I post certain things that are meant for my church friends, those posts only goes to those I have listed under that group. If I’m playing games, or I should say my husband is under my name, all game posts goes to that group of friends. I know many on my facebook page, but not all. And not all of those on my Facebook would be interested in what is going on here in my home town or what funny little thing my grand kids may have said or done for the day. Even though I don’t know why they wouldn’t want to know, lol. 

The reason I say this is because of privacy and what I would call rage posts or anger posts. I have a number of friends on my Facebook page that will post pictures or make a status comment. And in turn they may get a negative response from others about said post. When you post things for all of Facebook land to see and all of your friends, there is bound to be responses and not always are they what you are looking for. 

If someone posts a topic or shares a picture and you have opened it up for all to see, then logically one would think that someone will comment. I know I will comment on pictures or status’s. I may not on all of them, but some I do. When I post a status or a picture I understand that people will say what is on their mind, even if I don’t like it. It is the same with my blogs. The topic of this post isn’t about one particular person or a group. It is a general topic of if you don’t want people to comment the way you want them to, then don’t post it. If it is intended for certain people, then send to only those people or in a private message. Facebook is a social network and one shouldn’t expect much privacy when they choose to share what is on your mind or in your life with those on Facebook. 

I made a comment on a article on yahoo the other day about sharing of photos. The woman was upset because her picture was shared with others without her permission. In my opinion if she didn’t want the world to see it, then she should never have posted it. There are guidelines you have to follow when signing up for Facebook and other networking sites. I’m pretty sure most don’t read the small print. My comment to the article was that people are too laxed. There are more times than not that I can find information out about someone I don’t know by looking up their Facebook page. 

There is critical information that you should never share on Facebook. Some of the main no brainer things would be telephone numbers, addresses, where you work, birthdays, social security numbers and so on. But sharing information has lots of risks including your name which can be accessed by others and your profile can be viewed. Anyone can get valuable information and private photos from your profile — ultimately getting you in big trouble. 

I was able to show a friend just how easy it was to find out information about one of her friends. She was up for the challenge. I went to her page and located the friend. Her friend had on her profile where she worked at and little fun tidbits about her kids graduations. Her date of birth was on the page as was her place of birth. There was information about her anniversary and her husband on the page. Her friend wanted another friend to reach her, so she gave out her telephone number on a post, not thinking anything about it and later gave directions to her house. I didn’t know this person and she lived in another state. If I was an online stalker, I would have it made. Her friend allowed anyone to view her information. She had no idea who I was, but I knew who she was. 

What I’m saying is that be careful what you put out there because you may not like what the reply or the outcome may be. 


Things to Do to Protect Yourself; 

  • Always monitor pictures that other people put of you and tag you on. You can see the tagged pictures of you by going to your profile, click on “Photos”- you should see “Photos of You” and the number of tagged pictures.
  • Do not post pictures of yourself under the influence of any type of substance. This refers to pictures such as: Dancing-on-the-bar pictures or candid shots of the last time you got hammered with your pals on happy hour. Don’t be caught with drugs, especially if you’re underage because anyone can just print out the picture and show it to your parents or principal.
  • Be cautious of the statuses, photos, videos, etc. you post if your coworkers, colleagues, or even your boss is friends with you. If possible, avoid sending out or accepting friend requests from those who know you from work, especially your boss. Granting them full access to view your personal life will only have negative effects on your job.
  • Avoid putting your phone number, mailing address, or your home address in your profile. People often use words such as pet’s names or numbers as passwords, so it is not recommended to publish them on-line.
  • Never post information regarding an upcoming vacation or trip as your status. Doing so is just asking for your house to be robbed. If you must post photos and every detail of your two-week trip to France, do so after you return home, not before or during your vacation.
  • Change your password every so often. Don’t make your password something obvious such as your birthday or mother’s maiden name. Try to have at least one capital letter, one lowercase letter, two numbers, and a symbol. The longer and more complicated the password, the safer you are from getting your account hacked. Always remember to log out after you’re finished with Facebook, especially on a shared computer.

Bridezilla’s Encounter Bad Gift

ImageWhen it comes to giving gifts to those are I choose to or care about then that would be something I choose to do. Today I was reading an article on Yahoo about these two women who got married in Canada and threw a fit over a gift that was given to them. 

First off I want to give you the official meaning of a Bridezilla. Even though one word I bleeped out.  

  • Bridezilla One ridiculous spoiled b—- that thinks she is the center of the universe, just because her “show” (the wedding) is 18 months from now.

ImageThis is what the guest wrote on the card that she gave to the two brides;  “As a gift, my Girlfriend and I gave them a wicker box with a hinged lid, filled with food items, most of them PC Black Label, including: tri-color pasta, salsas, Balsamic vinegar and Olive oil, Gourmet croutons, Panko Breading, Pesto, some baking ingredients, Biscuits from Godiva and a few ‘Fun’ items like Marshmallow Fluff, Sour Patch Kids and Butterscotch sauce…On the card we wrote ‘Life is delicious….Enjoy.'”

In turn they got a nasty response and was ungrateful. They went on about how the brides spent $200.00 on the dinner for the guest and her boyfriend and so on. Because of the gift that the brides didn’t like they are no longer friends. If money was such a big deal to them, then they should have just run away and elope. They were obviously expecting much more than their friends could deliver on. I would have been happy with the gift and sent a thank you note. Who knows, one day those snacks would come in handy. 

This is what I feel is appropriate when I throw a party or reception. First of all those I invite are people I care about and I want them to be there to celebrate with me. No gifts are needed. I would much prefer them there than any gift. If a person is invited because they can give money or high end gifts, then they are at my party for the wrong reason. 

Now, If I’m going to a wedding, graduation or so on I will usually bring a gift. But that all depends on the person and what my financial situation is. If it is a young couple who doesn’t have much, I will always bring a gift and usually it is money, because I know they will need it. If I go to a graduation it is money too. They will need it for books and such if they are going to college. If they aren’t going to college, I give them a food gift card. For birthdays it will all depend. I have 5 grand-kids and it sure takes a lot of money to make sure they get what they want. If I go to a wedding and they have everything, I usually don’t bring a gift, but will get a card.

A gift is just that, a gift. it isn’t or shouldn’t be an expectation when invited somewhere. If someone wants to invite me to a party or reception because I give good gifts, then they aren’t interested in me being there. They only want my pocketbook and that is not what I would consider a real invitation. That would be a fundraiser. 

When my husband and I got married, we lived in Texas and we went to the Justice of the Peace. We spent $11.00 on the wedding license and had to pay like $10.00 to the JP. I was in jeans and a t-shirt and so was Chuck. One of our friends met us at the court so she could witness our marriage. We did want to get married with family around, but because of medical issues we couldn’t do that. On that day Lona made us a cake and we went to Sonic for lunch. I still remember the cake and the day. It wasn’t about money at all. If that was so, Chuck would still be a happy bachelor as he says and I would be married to a tycoon, lol. In October it will be 33 years that we have been married and thankfully there was none of the antics that came from these bridges. Even though my mom did send us money. Which was nice, but it wasn’t why we got married. 

When it comes to gift giving, it should be personal and I do think that the couple that put this gift together was thinking of the brides. Too bad the brides weren’t thinking of the quests. I would suggest to them on their next wedding and I’m almost willing to bet that they will have a next one that they have a cover charge or run off and get married. Everyone will remember how horrible they were and wouldn’t want to be dragged through the mud. 

Click here for the full article on Yahoo

Live Like Bella

ImageWhat does it mean to Live Like Bella? Live Like Bella means to eat something and enjoy it, savor it, go play with gusto, even the simple things. Do them and enjoy them. Learn something new, get out of your comfort zone and enjoy life. 

I have never met Bella. I knew her only through her Facebook page that her friends and family put together to help raise awareness about childhood cancer and for support through prayer for sweet little Bella. Even though I never met her in person, I feel like I know her. This is because she touched the lives of 10’s of thousands of people around the world. These are some of the things I knew about Bella and this would make me a Bella Believer. 

  • Bella loved Red
  • She loved Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse
  • She loved her dogs named Mickey and Minnie
  • Her favorite ride at Disney World is Small World
  • She was honorary chief of police in Miami
  • Bella has a sister named Rayna
  • She loved to belly laugh
  • Bella smiled even during the worst times
  • She loved to dance
  • She loved to sing
  • She started a campaign for fun Band-Aids for sick children
  • Bella’s dad wrote a book about Bella called ‘Why Not Me” A True Story about a Miracle in Miami. Her dads name is Raymond Rodriguez -Torres
  • Bella loved the Miami Heat
  • Most of all when I think of Bella, I think of faith through the eyes of a child. She showed more faith and grace than many adults that are completely healthy. 


Bella Rodriguez-Torres died after a 6-year battle with rhabdomyosarcoma, a cancerous tumor of the muscles that are attached to bones. “Bella didn’t lose her battle with cancer but instead won the reward of an eternal life,” her mother, Shannah, told CBS

This was a post that brought tears to my eyes for a few reasons. “‘When he had received the drink, Jesus said, ‘It is finished.’ With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.’ Bella has now joined Jesus in heaven. She went peacefully, surrounded by love, right after our beloved Father Craig finished praying. Please pray for us now for the strength and peace to continue to #LIVELIKEBELLA.” This post that she is now with Jesus was sad in the way that her family won’t get to see her on this earth, but they will in Heaven. Tears of joy comes because I know that she is healthy and without pain. She is with the Lord where the best place would be. 

ImageSupporters of Bella began to “Live Llke Bella,” a motto for pursuing everything that life has to offer. the Miami Police made me want to live in Miami. They reached out to Bella and her family. She was their chief and they raised money and awareness for childhood cancer. They still do this. It brings tears to my eyes to see them escorting their chief in a tiny red coffin. 

Bella has a way of make me look at things differently. I may have health problems, but I have the Lord and there are so many far more worse off than I am. Bella NEVER EVER GAVE UP (NEGU). 

I recently lost someone close to me and I have chosen to remember the good things about Frankie and all those that I love. Life is too short to let anger and bitterness take control. Maybe because of my faith in Christ, I look at things differently. I don’t know. But I do know that I want to Live Like Bella and not focus on the me stuff. Even on my worst days I can thank and praise the Lord. 

Thank you Bella for being such a positive example of faith and love. Thank you Bella’s family for sharing Bella with us and allowing us into your life and into hers. If you would like to watch a wonderfully put together video about Bella, check this out. 

This is what Bella’s Mom Shannah read at Bella’s Funeral- Her love for Jesus and compassion for others always reminded me of Mother Theresa. 

  • “People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
  • If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
  • If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
  • If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
  • What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
  • If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
  • The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
  • Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
  • You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” Mother Theresa

“And even though this world is cruel and hard, #LiveLikeBellaanyway” Shannah (Bella’s mommy)

Fathers Day Thoughts

Happy Fathers Day Dad- My dad Dennis

With Father’s Day almost upon us, I wanted to take a few minutes to write about things that I’m grateful to my own husband, dad and father in law for. The more I began to think about how my father was and father in law was, the more I started to understand how wonderful God our Heavenly Father is to us.

As a child we take our fathers for granted. When I think of my father I thought of a guy that worked hard for what he got. He seemed tough on the outside, but every so often he would so the softer side. Dad taught us that we needed to know about cars. It didn’t matter that most of us were girls. That was an even better reason to understand and know how to fix a car just in case.

My father in law helping Jessica put something together… He sure did love his grand daughters

When I think about my Father in Law Harold, I think about a man who had a rough exterior and didn’t show much emotion. But when my daughters were over there, you could see how much he loved them. When we would go home from visiting them, he would have his head hung low and I could see how lonely he was and how much he enjoyed having us all around. He passed away around Fathers Day in 2004.

God isn’t one to pass up a teaching opportunity. Yesterday I was at Gunlock State Park here in Southern Utah. There was a father and son in a fishing boat. I asked the father if I could take a picture of him with his son because it was their first time.

ImageI could see the excitement on his young son that couldn’t have been over 5 yrs old. Once they made it to the shore to set up their tent, the dad was obviously a well experienced tent put together kind of guy. Along comes his son with his little tent poles and working hard at getting it put up. Together they set up their camping site and was on to bigger and better fish to fry, literally.

It’s not easy teaching a boy how to become a man or, but this dad was trying to find a way. It may take gentle coaxing, it may involve some kicking and screaming, but in the end. Teaching your son how to grow is both the greatest blessing and challenge God can give a father.

My husband Chuck

I bet some are thinking I would leave out my husband when it comes to this Fathers Day post, and I might have, but won’t. Chuck and I have been married for almost 33 yrs. We have one daughter that we had naturally and one we adopted. He has always loved them both the same. Chuck has a rough exterior too, but actually a big teddy bear when it comes to some things. He has always been easier on the girls than I have been. Maybe because they are girls, but he does love them and would not hesitate on decking someone if they hurt them. They may be in their 30’s, but they are still his girls.

A father is someone who will always be there, firm but with arms open to say, “I love you. I will always love you.”

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Birthdays- I HATE Them

ImageSome of you may know this, but maybe not all. This week is my birthday and I don’t want to hear about it. You would think since it is my birthday I would be happy about it. Some say it is just another number and they think I should be wearing a smile on my face and be in a festive mood. I will forewarn anyone out there, this is not the case with me.

There are people out there like me that have mixed feelings, and can be downright bitter and unimpressed. Again, I forewarn you that this is me.

Usually, birthdays would bring us or me to a place where you look back and take stock into how our life has gone. For me at-least, milestone birthdays such as the 30’s, 40’s and not even going there brings a different reaction from me. Again, I for-warn anyone that this is me. It is not pretty at all.

Just because one person who turned a milestone may be excited, consider the fact that not everyone is like this and it is not funny to the one who has to hear it all the time. Some may perceive these days as joyous and that is NOT me. Again, I forewarn you, I do NOT perceive this as a joyous day. Just letting everyone know right now.

Then I have my friend Jennifer who has a birthday just a few days before mine and she is all happy and excited about that. Me on the other hand is happy for me, but I know my day is fast approaching and that stresses me out tremendously and has a way of changing my entire mood.

33552944While others may love celebrating their birthdays and milestones, don’t expect me to react the same way, because it will NOT happen. And if someone thinks it is funny to go out of their way to make a big deal or the sorts, they may not like my reaction one bit. I find absolutely no humor when it comes to this and some may not like my reaction if they think they are being funny. I have some friends who think it is a funny thing and that my feelings and thoughts are unwarranted and let me say this to them RIGHT NOW! I will not react in the way you want!!! And if you want to upset me and slam the door in your face or such, just keep mentioning it.

My husband thought he was being funny by putting my picture in the paper 10 yrs ago for my birthday and let me tell you, that was not a good moment for anyone in my house. He got NO sex for three months and I am still very angry and bitter over it.

A simple happy birthday if someone must say something is all it takes. The rest can be left out, because I’m far from happy about it and it just isn’t going to happen. Thinking it is funny to mention and say things will only make the day much more miserable for me.
I’m just forewarning everyone how I react and I don’t take it as a good day whatsoever. I don’t need ideas on how to make it a better day or how I shouldn’t feel this way. It doesn’t matter! I need no antidotes or anything of the sort. I had someone tell me once to get over it and then smile. Let me say this, “I do NOT get over it!” If those who think it is funny and disregard my feelings on things, just know that my thoughts will go to the point of wondering if a friend is a friend or if someone respects my feelings. That would tell me they do not respect my wishes and could care less about what I think or feel.

No Cake is Needed, No Cards are Needed… I need NO reminders! I took it off of Facebook for a reason! If I don’t answer my phone on my birthday, know this is the reason and I’m in a very foul mood and best to leave me alone.

Signing off on this topic…

Opening Doors for Stangers

This week has been interesting to say the least and way out of my normal way of doing things.

Verses on helping others; 

  •  Isaiah 25:4 “You have been a refuge for the poor, a refuge for the needy in his distress, a shelter from the storm and a shade from the heat. For the breath of the ruthless is like a storm driving against a wall.”
  • 1 John 3:17 “If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him?”
  • Proverbs 14:31 “He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but whoever is kind to the needy honors God.”
Frankie a few years back and he is holding his nephew Malachi

Some of my posts lately has been about this young man that I have loved and continue to love that passed away. He made a choice that is hard to understand. His family has been coming together in some ways, while others are angry and hurt and for good reason at times. 

When Frankie’s parents let me know that his Uncle Dave was coming into town to visit. He brought with him his wife and daughter. They came down with very little money and means. They knew they needed to be here to support his sister Tina and his niece and family members. I have never met them, but something or someone put it on my heart to offer to let them stay at my house. Little did I know that they have been sleeping in their car and have so little when it comes to putting gas in their car. Now, I have no money to help, but I do have a bed, and food. So I offered to let them stay and they accepted. 

Frida May and her daddy Dave

They were praying for God to help them make this trip possible and to help them find a place to stay and food to eat since they would have nothing to spend. They are Godly people that believe in the power of prayer. Even their 5 yr old daughter will break down in song and prayer in a moments notice. It has been nice getting to know them and to learn more about what it is like where they live and their views. Not to sure on the whole eating possum thing though. I think I will leave that to them. 

Because they are here visiting family, my house has been crazy. Some of Frankie’s family members don’t get along and there are a lot of hurt feelings, anger fear, and all the things that go along with the knowledge of loosing a son, father, brother, friend, nephew and such to suicide. My house has been a place of mediation and a safe place for them to meet up. Seeing everyone together makes me thankful for my family and sad for his in many ways. I wish they could find the place in their heart where love once resided in their hearts. I know it is there. But a lot has happened and it is clouded right now. 

Anne, Elycia and Frankie

My deepest prayer and hope is that they can heal and be a family. All families have issues and fights, but I know that Frankie would have loved to have everyone get along. And I have also seen a warm side to Anne over this week. I only met her a couple times and liked her before. But lately, I have been seeing how much of a warm person she is and even though she has a temper and says things in a different way. I see in her eyes and hear in her voice that she is a person who loves others. She loves her daughter. She is in a scary place in her life right now. She lost the one person she loved deep in her soul. She lost the father to her daughter. She is basically homeless and has very little means to support herself. Anne is a person I would like to get to know better and I think there is more to this girl than meets the eye. Anne is in my continued prayers. I know that she will be a wonderful mother if given a real chance. She is strong and I have seen she has a strength about her. I guess I just look past some of the angry remarks and realize how much she is hurting and she needs someone to be there for her. Not to take away from her, but to help her along the way and be a friend. 

But this week has been strange because of this and my house has been crazy. But not in a bad way. I have learned from my house having so much diversity and this little girl Frida May has shown me why God loves the children. She has such a genuine love for the Lord. 

  • 1 John 3:1  See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

God has also shown me this week that even when I think someone is a lost cause, that I’m wrong. Nobody is a lost cause. Everyone is worth being prayed for. God can change anyone and can use a bad situation and turn it into something positive. I don’t know what God has planned, but I have to say “I’m pretty excited to see what is in store”. 

Romans 8:26-27

  • Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.

I would like to ask anyone that is willing to keep them in your prayers. This family needs to be covered in prayers. God knows and understands what the needs are. I pray that they can heal, find peace and know that they are loved.