Suicide and Heaven

One of my friends posted a comment on her status on Facebook about if a person commits suicide, will they go to heaven. I think that is a hard question to answer. When I try to reason this out in my brain it is conflicted.

brian2It isn’t because the person will go to hell. It’s a personal question for me for a number of reasons. I have a very dear friend that was like a nephew to me that committed suicide. He was an awesome kid, but he had many problems and they consumed most parts of his life. His name is Brian. I remember when he was born, this little boy with the most beautiful eye lashes that any girl would love to have. He had green eyes, dark hair and an olive complexion. Brian grew into a handsome young man who any girl would love to have escorting her around town. Brian loved muscle cars and his family. Most of all, I think he loved his little daughter Sarah and his Camaro.

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Brian made a horrible choice to take his life and that left a void in his family’s life. There isn’t enough good I can say about Brian. As I said before, Brian was like a nephew to me. I knew his mom since I was very young and our families were always close. His family is my family and it will always be that way. Hopefully his mom and dad and brother and sister doesn’t get upset with me on this post.

So many people think that if a person commits suicide they go to hell and I don’t believe that. Brian was baptized and he was far from perfect. But aren’t we all? And haven’t we all done things that we regret and wish we could take back? I know I do. I have made my share of mistakes to last me three or four lifetimes. I do believe that Brian is with the Lord now and that God takes into consideration what is happening in our lives. He picks us up when we fall. I miss seeing Brian when I go to Phoenix and see his family. It breaks my heart that his family is hurting as they are. I know one day that they will be back in each others arms though. I don’t doubt that at all. Brain was and is a wonderful man and it’s sad that his daughter won’t get the chance to know how special he was.

heavenFor anyone who thinks there is no other choice but to end your life, please talk to someone. I know I have had many dark days where I can’t figure things out. But God does have a way of bringing the light back into your life if you allow Him to. Things won’t be perfect and we shouldn’t expect t that. We are imperfect people living in an imperfect world looking forward to a perfect life with God. This isn’t our home and it is just temporary.

Then I think of another friend of mine. I won’t go into names because that wouldn’t be right of me. But, anyhow, this person was a very spiritual person. She and I would have long conversations before she passed. She read the Bible and knew Jesus, but not in a way I would say a Christian would know Jesus. She thought he was a real person and that he was a great teacher. But that we could change our destiny if we were good and did good for others. There were other ways to get to heaven.

My friend and I are talking about this right now and she brought up the point that even if she only believed that Jesus was a teacher and not the son of God then she was not saved. Even atheists read the Bible Sandie. Some atheists know the Bible even more than we do but they still are atheists. I can’t argue with her there. And my point is that even Satan believes in Jesus Christ since he was once and angel and he was booted from Heaven.

But not in the way I would say a Christian would know Jesus. She thought he was a real person and that he was a great teacher. But that we could change our destiny if we were good and did good for others. There were other ways to get to heaven.

teenage_angst__suicide__by_saccharinesmile_smallThen just yesterday country singer Mindy McCreedy committed suicide. She left her two young sons and a family that loves her. There is no way to know what was going on in her heart and mind and that isn’t for me to say. She was involved in drugs and alcohol and those where bad choices for her. This is not saying she was a bad person, because I don’t personally know her.

My thoughts and prayers and with her family and I do pray that she was right with the Lord. When I have friends that I know haven’t accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, I usually tell them that they are in the hands of the Lord now. And that is because the Lord only knows what their future is and what the true conditions of the heart is. Sometimes we can’t tell by good deeds because even those who don’t believe can be good people. Being good doesn’t get us closer to Heaven, it just gives us feel better while we are on this earth, but is it really a true feeling of feeling good, or just is what it is.

In closing I would just like to say that I don’t have all the answers. But I can tell you who does and where you can get those answers. That would be the inspired Word of God called the Bible. It’s up to each person to read the Bible and decide for themselves. Nobody can do it for you. It isn’t hard and if you anyone needs to have someone to pray for them and with them, don’t hesitate to ask. I know many prayer warriors including myself that would be happy to pray with and for you…

Duck Faced Girls- Drives me Nuts

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I’m guessing most people will know what I mean when I talk about duckface lips. Out of respect for my friends and family on Facebook, I won’t post their pictures on here. But I had a hard time not doing that. Here is what the definition of Duckface.

ImageDuckface is  that face you make when you’re about to take that perfect picture of yourself for the internet? It is the pose where you push your mouth out in that sort of weird half-kissy-face to make it look like you’ve got big pouty lips, a super-defined jaw line, and model-quality cheekbones?

it’s called “duckface.”

I hope this blog posting doesn’t offend anyone. But it absolutely drives me nuts when I see girls doing this thing called Duck Lips. First of all, in my opinion it makes the person look like they are stuck on themselves and it looks fake. Maybe they think it makes them look hot or sexy.

I have a few girls/ladies that do it on Facebook and I want to hit delete every-time I see their Imagepictures pop up. Why can’t they just be who they are without all the stupid duck lip thing going on. Then I was thinking, maybe they think it makes them look skinnier. Maybe they are all Angelina or Marilyn Monroe wanna be’s or is it their way to emulate the collagen-mutilated celebrity plastic surgery victims.

I have asked a few guys that I know what they think the duckface craze is all about and how they feel about it. One guy thought that it looked like they were offering a sexual act and that they would do what he would want him to do. But he said beyond that, “it is not sexy”.  Another guy said it is a “turn off to him when girls do that and that he would rather see the true smile and beauty than something fake.” This other guy said “A lot of my friends make duckface in their pictures and I don’t understand it at all. They must think it makes them look cute, more appealing, etc but I wish they would realize how ridiculous and stupid it looks.” And finally, the last guy said. “It doesn’t make anyone cute or attractive.  It makes people look drunk and ready to lose their inhibitions. ”

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I came across this website called Antiduckface and it shows how ridiculous it really is. And those who do it would be taken much more serious if they were being themselves.

The only ones that should be doing duckfaces are ducks and cute little kids. Other than that, it looks stupid. And if someone is saying it looks cute or pretty, they are stroking your egos and lying to you.

Sorry if I offended any of you duckfaced girls out there, but someone had to be honest with you and tell you the truth. It looks fake and immature. It isn’t cute! The only ones who would like that face is if a guy was hoping for something and he is only interested in that one thing.

So be true to yourself and get real…

Diet Soda Obsession?

ImageI don’t know about anyone else, but when someone tries to tell me that drinking Diet Pepsi is bad for my health, I half heartily listen and continue drinking my Diet Pepsi.

Today on Yahoo they were once again saying how bad Diet Pepsi is for a person and that they stand a higher risk of Type 2 Diabetes.  This is what they had to say about my habit of drinking my diet soda of choice. “Yet another study confirms what people have been saying for ages: Stop drinking diet soda. Like, right now. Drinking just one 12-ounce can of an artificially sweetened fizzy drink per week can increase your risk of Type 2 diabetes by 33 percent, French researchers found. And given that most people don’t stop at a single weekly serving, your real risk for diabetes could actually be much higher.”

OK! So my thought on this is that I don’t drink, smoke, swear or take drugs. But they still want to pick on my consumption of Diet Pepsi. I know it isn’t healthy, but I can come up with a whole list of things that aren’t healthy that we do every day without thinking about it. The first thing I would put on the list is Imagebreathing. Have you seen what is in the air you are sucking into your lungs? Now, lets’s think about the cars we drive or have to sit by at a light that stink to high heaven. Do we really know what is in the exhaust that goes into the air? Food! Yep, we all need food to live, but even the freshest fruits and berries may have some unseen horrible agent on it that is left over residuals from pesticides. Strawberries and other yummy fruits has been on the hit list of bad things to eat. The picture to the left shows field workers spraying what we think are sweet, plump red strawberries.

What I’m getting at here is that there are a lot of things that we do that we know are bad for us. I have been trying to cut down on my soda consumption though because I don’t like the heartburn I get at night and the bloated feeling. But I like my Diet Pepsi with all it’s not so good ingredients. I don’t like the sweetness of regular soda. I have also started to drink more water each day and will drink tea.

ImageOh! Another warning they say about my soda of choice and my partner in crime when it comes to doing bad things for my body is that they say it will make you obese. OK! This statement gets me every-time  Even though I have to say I have more weight than I would like to have. But anyhow! First they market it under Diet Drinks. In my brain, diet means to loose weight right? So how can it cause me to gain weight? Then some genius was saying how eggs were bad for us and now all the sudden they are totally awesome because of the proteins.

I’m not going into the logistics of what is so bad about diet soda, because you can Google it and find the answer by following links to hundreds if not thousands of sites as to why you shouldn’t drink Diet Soda. Now Diet Coke, I can see, it tastes nasty, lol.

ImageI do want to say one thing in favor of cutting back on diet sodas. I have a friend in Phoenix that would only drink Diet Coke. Every where he went, he had a 44 oz cup in his hand. He didn’t drink water or anything else that anybody could tell. One summer, he became so dehydrated from drinking nothing but Diet Sodas. I say that if you are going to drink diet soda, do it in moderation and make sure you drink plenty of water. I love my Diet Pepsi, but I try not to be stupid about drinking only Diet Pepsi.

God’s Love Shines in Southern Utah

cloudsovercity8Today while I was taking Chuck to work I noticed the clouds over St. George were pretty low. I had full intentions of just taking him to work and then coming home and going back to bed. Today is my husbands birthday and I kinda overdid yesterday and wasn’t feeling good. I was glad I took him to work today because of the photo opportunity that God made available to me.

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Here I am in my car and decided to just drop him off so I had my jammies on. I wasn’t going to get out of the car anyhow, so what harm and they aren’t see through anyhow. But on the way to dropping him off I noticed lurking over the city was clouds. St. George, Utah is a city in the canyons of Southern Utah, so we do see clouds covering the city once in a great while. So out comes my camera and I pull over on Skyline Drive to take some pictures. Here I am, in all my glory taking pictures of the beauty and glory from God. I’m pretty sure God’s glory tops my glory by a long shot though, lol.

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As I stood there, I snapped pictures from all directions. When I came home, I loaded them into my computer and some spoke to me more than I would thing. You see, we all have times in our lives where it is like we are living under the clouds in a deep vast canyon. I know for myself it is that way. I have so many things going on in my life that I forget the rays of hope and the sunshine that comes through even on cloudy days.

Clouds for me has a way of showing me that even though they are present at times, they do move on and God’s light shines through. I have hope in knowing that God is always there for me on the darkest of days and when I don’t think the clouds and storms are ever going to end. Then He pulls a wonderful miracle and display of beauty and shines upon my life.

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Some people wonder about how I can think the way I do over a cloud that moves around in the sky. I guess I just see all the wonder and I know that those clouds, sun and yes the darkest night with the moon shining down are all gifts from God. God shines his rays of hope and love on all of us, even when we aren’t deserving of them. In St. George this morning, no matter who you are and what walk of life, the clouds, fog and sun-shined for all to enjoy and take part in.

This is the City of St. George. The St. George Mormon Temple is the building with the steeple in the middle of the town... But what a beautiful picture it made...
This is the City of St. George. The St. George Mormon Temple is the building with the steeple in the middle of the town… But what a beautiful picture it made…

This morning, even though I wasn’t feeling good, I feel blessed. I was glad that I got to take Chuck to work and was able to take in all that God has shown me on a 15 minute drive. No wonder I love road trips.

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Bradley and His Mom- RIP little man

One other little thought I had was about this family who just lost their son last night to cancer. My heart breaks for them, but I can see this sweet little boy named Bradley not having to weather any more storm clouds. He is basking in the Lords rays of sunshine and enjoying the peace that comes with knowing the Lord. I have hope and I KNOW that one day we all will enjoy the rays of sunshine and have no more storm clouds because that is what God says. For those who come across this, could you keep Bradley and his family in your prayers. They know Bradley is with God and having a good time, but they will miss him until they are reunited. Because of Bradley and children that go through illnesses such as cancer, it puts my life in perspective and they show what true faith and love is. These children are so strong and I admire the strength of the parents and that they put their trust in God during one of the worst storms of their lives.

Here is a video of one of my favorite hymns called “The Unclouded Day”Click here to watch it. Below is the lyrics to it. I wish we sang this song at church. When I hear this song I always think about how perfect Heaven will be. I have to say that I do hope there are clouds in heaven, just not the kind that brings bad things. And of course we are told that there will be no storm clouds. Yeah about that 🙂

Unclouded Day

Oh they tell me of a home far beyond the skies
Oh they tell me of a home far away
Oh they tell me of a home where no storm clouds rise
Oh, they tell me of an unclouded day

Oh the land of cloudless day
Oh the land of an unclouded sky
Oh they tell me of a home where no storm clouds rise
Oh they tell me of an unclouded day

Oh they tell me of a home where my friends have gone
Oh they tell me of that land far away
Where the tree of life in eternal bloom
Sheds its fragrance through the unclouded day

Oh they tell me of a King in His beauty there
And they tell me that mine eyes shall behold
Where He sits on the throne that is whiter than snow
In the city that is made of gold

Oh they tell me that He smiles on His children there
And His smile drives their sorrows all away
And they tell me that no tears ever come again
In that lovely land of unclouded day

Mandatory Insurance

ImageOver the past few months, I got thinking about mandatory health insurance like most of the people in the USA. For me, I guess it seems like a good thing because of all my medical issues. I like the fact that they have to cover pre-exiting conditions. I don’t like other parts like they pay for birth control and stuff like that. But there sure is a lot of fighting and bickering over how the government is telling us that we have to have coverage or be penalized for not getting coverage.

This whole thing about government got me thinking back to when my daughter Jessica was very small. We didn’t have to have automobile insurance until she was around 2 years old or so. We didn’t even need car seats until she was a little older. Of course I did have one for her because it seemed pretty irresponsible and dangerous to not have one.

ImageWe were told shortly after we moved to Arizona that we had to have auto insurance and liability is the least we could purchase. Everyone was in a mad dash to get it by a certain date or we would be penalized for not having it. Sound familiar?  We wouldn’t be able to register our car or anything. At that time we barely had enough to feed ourselves and our daughter so that hit us pretty hard. We ended up meeting the deadline, but there was a lot of angry people that was upset over the government tell them that they had to have auto insurance and soon to follow car seats for infants.

In 1978 Tennessee was the first state to make car seats mandatory, by 1988 the rest of the states adopted the law. Prior to the mid 1970’s, less than 10 percent of American families were using car seats for their children. And I tell ya that people were more than upset over the government telling them that they had to have their kids in car-seats.

ImageThe penalties for driving without car insurance—or, in the above cases, proof of financial responsibility—vary across the United States, ranging from a fine of $500 all the way up to months in jail. The middle ground holds possibilities such as impounding and a suspended license. Here in Utah the penalty is pretty much this and I have friends who have had their cars impounded and lost them and left with horrible fines.

I was looking up how they work things in California if you have no auto insurance. This was taken from their own website and people think the penalty is high to not have medical insurance. 

Penalties for Having no Insurance in California ( I don’t Live there, but here is just one example from one state)

If you have no car insurance in California, whether you let it lapse or never purchased it to begin with, the state provides for punitive consequences designed to encourage you to fix the problem. Understand that in California, you need insurance not only to drive a vehicle, but also to park it on any public road. In other words, you may not even park an uninsured vehicle on the street in front of your home under any circumstances.

Drivers who allow their insurance to lapse, and cannot provide proof of new insurance within 45 days, automatically receive a one-year suspension of their registration. During the suspension period, the car cannot legally be operated or parked on any public roads in the state. In order to reinstate the vehicle registration, the driver must provide proof of insurance, in any of the three forms allowed by law, as well as a reinstatement fee. The proof of insurance and fee are submitted to the state Vehicle Registration Financial Responsibility Program.

Drivers who are caught behind the wheel of an uninsured vehicle face potentially stiffer penalties, especially if the vehicle is unregistered or has had its registration suspended. The driver could face severe fines as well as the suspension of his license. In addition, a driver involved in an accident with an uninsured vehicle will also face license suspension for a year. In both cases, proof of insurance is required in order to reinstate the license.

The Additional Cost of not Having Car Insurance in California

Beyond the possible suspension of registration and driver’s license, there is an additional cost to not having car insurance in California. That cost is reflected when you do finally attempt to get your vehicle properly insured. Your DMV records will be available to any insurance company you attempt to get a policy through. Those records will indicate your reluctance to procure the legally required insurance prior to your suspensions, which will mark you as a high risk driver and cause higher insurance premiums.

When I think about the mandatory health insurance, it is pretty much the same. The government telling us we have to have insurance and if not there will be a penalty. Nothing has really changed except the insurance covers something else. I don’t have any answers, just my own thoughts on no matter what it is what it is. 

Then I think about the liability if we get in a car accident or get sick. Someone has to pay for that and if we don’t have the coverage than who will be paying for that? My guess is that it will be the taxpayers that will be covering everyone Else’s butt because they don’t have insurance. Each year there are hundreds of thousands of medical bankruptcy’s and people are loosing everything because they have no coverage.

ImageI will use myself as an example on this. Just last year I ended up in the hospital and the bill so far is close to $140,000. Yeah, that is $140,000 that I do NOT have. We have very limited medical insurance that covers only $2000.00 a year with no prescription plan. I can tell you this, that I don’t have that much money just laying around. But if we had adequate coverage, at-least 80% might have been covered. So now, I have the choice of filing a medical bankruptcy, not paying it, or whatever other choice is out there. But if I had coverage that covered these type of expenses, it wouldn’t be costing the taxpayer and the hospital wouldn’t have to write off that huge amount if it has to come to that.

Same thing with car insurance. If the person that hits you has no coverage, who do you think is going to pay your bills? It won’t be them! Sure, you could take them to court all you want, but you can’t get blood out of a turnip.

Since I will be able to get Medicare starting in April, I will still have to pay a premium like anyone else. I still have to pay co-payments and such. But it will be a lot better because I will have coverage and the hospital will be able to get paid instead of having to increase the fees to cover what others can’t pay. I would be more than willing to pay the bill if I had the money to do that, but not everyone has that luxury. With insurance at-least I feel better knowing that they are getting paid and not everyone else has to pay for what I can’t pay for.

ImageAs for the new mandatory health insurance, I can understand how it is a hardship for many that don’t have the money. I also feel for those companies that struggle with the rising costs of providing health care to their employees. I don’t know if there is a clean cut approach to this without offending someone. There is no way anything is going to make everyone happy. I’m sure with the next president, they will do something that ticks somebody off no matter what party they belong to. It has happened all the way throughout history.

The one thing that never changes is that I know that God is there and that people are infallible. I chose not to get into all the political stuff on this post because it does no good to argue politics and who is right or wrong. Because I don’t think there is a right or wrong in this. It is a change like everything else is. 

Running Inside Out

This week was the Sanctify of Life anniversary. On Netflix there has been a few shows that are based around abortion and the difficult choices a person has to make when they find out they are having a baby when they weren’t planning on having a baby.

ImageThe moving I was watching is Running Inside Out. The acting wasn’t the best, but there was some awesome moments that will make you laugh and cry. This movie is about a girl named Kim who has her whole life ahead of her. She has her life planned out and being pregnant wasn’t what was in her plans. The answer comes gently as ordinary Believers from various walks of life quietly ‘wash her feet’, serving her with acts of kindness. The enduring sincerity softens Kim’s heart. Forgiveness is a big thing in this true story. It is worth your time to watch this movie. Click here for a short clip and more information about this movie… 

I think about when I was a teenager that got pregnant at 17 and made more than my share of mistakes. The easiest decision at that time was to keep Jessica. Maybe that is because at the time I was going through a lot more obstacles and never seen being pregnant as a bad thing. Most of my sisters all got pregnant at 16 or 17, so it wasn’t a big deal to me. Keeping the baby isn’t a easy choice by any means, but for me it was the only choice.

Like this girl Kim in this movie, I know girls who have had abortions and had everyone telling them that it was the only choice to make. It wouldn’t be good to keep the baby because of how it looked. Or friends would step in and make it easier to have an abortion and had no problem stepping in and pushing the envelope.

ImageFrom my own observances when it comes to abortion, it can cause a lot of emotional problems for a long time. And if the girls don’t have someone to talk to them and tell them that God loves them and that no matter what they are loved. If girls or families think this is an easy decision and a decision easy to live with, it isn’t. Some girls have many problems with depression, anxiety and may never have children. I won’t go into what happens when they perform an abortion, but it isn’t pretty and it is very insensitive and uncaring. it is just a procedure to those performing it. There is no counseling like they say there is. They do it and send the girls home.

I would like to say that in our area we have an organization that is free. They charge absolutely nothing for their services. It is a place called Hope Pregnancy Care Center. They will be there to hold your hand, cry with you and make informed decisions. They won’t push you into doing something you aren’t comfortable with.

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Contact Information for Hope Pregnancy Care Center

391 E. 500 S.

St. George, Utah 84770

Client: 435.652.8343

Business: 435.656.5331
Pregnancy Decision Hotline:www.pregnancydecisionline.org

“Hope Pregnancy Care Center does not provide or refer for abortion or contraceptives”.

American Idol is a Joke

ImageI know that many are probably sick of American Idol and I have to agree with alot of the posts I read about the female judges Mariah Carey and Nicki Minaj. They have ruined my possibility of watching it this year. 

ImageFor me American Idol should be all about the contestants, not the judges  Sure the judges are important and fun to watch. But not this year. Before the season even began it was full of drama from the two drama queens. I could handle Mariah, but not Nicki. Not saying I would like to watch Mariah, but at-least she isn’t as annoying. 

So now I’m left with some decisions that I have to make. Since I normally watch American Idol, I have to find something new to do with my time instead of spending three nights watching it while hoping my favorite makes it through. I did up a little list of some of my options that have opened up for me since I now have the time to do  them. 

  1. Watch The Voice
  2. Play on Facebook 
  3. Clean the house
  4. Feed the dogs
  5. Take a warm bath and relax
  6. Read my Bible and fill my head with good stuff
  7. Call friends or family
  8. Pop in a good chick flick of my choice and eat bon bons
  9. Post a blog about what I’m doing instead of watching IDOL
  10. Since I will have time to do all the above, I could do  all of these things

Now that I have gone into my rant about American Idol I can now focus on more important matters. What those things are, I have no idea, but I will share them when I find out. 

Some People are Rude

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This is what I think about rude people…

I want to warn you, that this is going to be a bit of a venting post. I’m sorry since I have been trying to stay clear of the grumbling issues since I seem to hear so many complainers.

So far this weekend it has not been a good one and I have not been impressed to say the least.

On Saturday Chuck looks at his car to see what is wrong with it since water or should I say ice was coming from it. He didn’t put antifreeze in it and cracked the block. So that is probably $1000.00 that will be going out when it would have costed under $10.00 to fill with anti-freeze. Enough said on that or I will write a book about how ticked I am about that.

Then today at church, this lady ticked me off. She doesn’t know she did, but she did. She waits around for a bit after church and then I go to say hi her husband and her. I won’t go into names. But I was ticked when she had to make it a point to tell me that it looks like I gained some weight. And I explained to her that I take steroids and she should know the effects of the steroids since she use to be a nurse. Her husband then proceeded to tell me he understood. Well, no he doesn’t. There is no way he would because he is thin as a rail and probably soaking wet he is 150 pounds. But then, why should I have needed to explain anyhow since it was none of their business to begin with. Then they thought it was a good idea to invite me out to lunch, which they always do. The audacity of the whole thing blew me away.

My medical things is something that I don’t like to share with the world and those who I think need to know, knows. Usually when I get put on a prayer request page at church I get 20 questions and I hate that. I don’t think I need to explain what is going on to begin with.

ImageI think of people that judge others because they are heavier or whatever else and it makes me mad. They don’t know what is going on with the other person. There are many who gain weight because of illness and medications like myself. Shoot, I wear a size 16. It isn’t small, but it sure is a long way from being massively overweight. Sure many over indulge, but then that is also a problem. They may be eating to hide hurts and pains. When someone looks down on another because they are heavier or don’t look like they think a person should is not the kind of person I want to be around.

This is part of an article that was written on a health website about things not to say to a person who takes prednisone.

ImagePrednisone, one of the most effective short-term medicines for quickly quelling a severe flare-up, has several side effects, including weight gain. Another side effect is “moon face,” in which the cheeks get rounded, making for a chipmunk-like look that can give the impression that a person is heavy even when his or her body is rail-thin.

Fortunately, this effect tends to go away when the person stops taking corticosteroids. Until then, the best approach to commenting on weight or looks to a person with IBD is not to comment at all.

I think of my daughter Jessica who has Poly Cystic Ovarian Disease. I love her and she is beautiful no matter what her size is.  With PCOS there are many side effects and weight gain, infertility and many other not fun side effects come with that. She is heavier because of this and it is always an uphill battle for her. If only others would take into consideration that other things are going on in peoples lives and you can’t judge a person by how they look or what weight they are on the outside.

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Tanya Angus

Then there this woman in Las Vegas named Tanya Angus who just died from . She 34, died “due to her heart and TIA (transient ischemic attack or mini-stroke).” Tanya Angus had an extreme form of acromegaly. Tanya spent the last 12 years trying to find a cure for her acromegaly, which meant she couldn’t stop growing. If she was judged by just looking at her, you would think that she didn’t care what she looked like and ate all the time. But that was far from the truth.

It makes me wonder if they are really happy or if they have to put others down to make themselves happy. I’m just guessing here.

I posted my vent on Facebook and was glad to know that I can grumble and others are OK with it. I’m blessed with many wonderful friends.

Side Effects of Prednisone- 

  • Sodium (salt) retention
  • Fluid retention
  • Weight gain/Obesity
  • High blood pressure
  • Elevated blood sugar
  • Elevated blood fats
  • Potassium loss
  • Headache
  • Muscle weakness
  • Puffiness or moon face
  • Growth of facial hair
  • Bruising easily
  • Thinning of skin
  • Poor wound healing
  • Cataracts
  • Glaucoma
  • Stomach ulcers
  • Aseptic necrosis
  • Irregular periods
  • Rounding of upper back
  • Growth retardation in children
  • Increased appetite
  • Insomnia
  • Psychiatric issues (depression, mood swings, personality changes)

I would like to say that with the Psychiatric issues, if I get upset and yell at the person who told me I look like I gained weight, I’m going to plead temporary prednisone insanity. Just be warned…

Serious Moonlight- My Thoughts

ImageSitting here watching this cheesy movie with Med Ryan and Timothy Hutton got me thinking. I know this is a dangerous thing to do, but come along with me on this little journey.

The movie is called Serious Moonlight. This is the story-line for Serious Moonlight;

Louise (Meg Ryan) wants to find a way to reconnect with her husband, Ian (Timothy Hutton), who is divorcing her after many years of marriage. But when she surprises him at their country home, she is more than slightly dismayed that the roses and romantic set-up are not for her but for his much younger mistress. Louise takes matters into her own hands, and abducts Ian duct-taping him to the toilet, where he must admit to his true feelings and he is unable to leave her. Things grow exceedingly awry for everybody when a burglar shows up at their house, and then everybody must discover and admit to their true feelings.

So this is where my thinking begins. In the movie Ian is telling Louise that he fell out of love with her because she didn’t need him and he needed to be with someone who needs him, not just wanting to be with him. This kinda reminds me of my last blog about dogs and we love them because they need us. But anyhow, let me not get distracted in my thoughts here and revert to puppy love, lol.

The reason I got to thinking about this is how people in our lives are like that. Sometimes when the need is gone they leave. I know for myself , there are times it was time to exit door left. They are only there for the crisis’s or lows and then when things start to go well, they are no longer there. Would that be considered a true friendship or someone that God put there for a purpose and then poof they are gone.

For me when I think about true friendships or relationships, it is for the long haul. I don’t know if a real relationship exists on only highs or lows. I have had some friends that were great when it came to if I needed something, but not in the lolls of life. I think they are more like blips of time. There is a season for everything and that is true of relationships and friendships. I thank God for those who are here for the long haul and those here for only a season.  Of course, I would be without flaws, right? OK! I needed to put a funny in there for those who really know me and how I do stupid things all the time or forget whatever it may be or who they are.

ImageWith Louse she was bent on trying to push her husband back into loving her no matter what it takes. Even strapping him to the toilet and making chocolate chip cookies. I guess in some off the wall way of reasoning I can see why she would stoop to any level to keep the man she loves and not allow another lady to steal her man. Kudos to her. Too bad people don’t put this much effort into relationships of whatever degree. This starts another thought, sorry. But how many times do people try to push others to be a part of their lives or to be accepted. Why is it that people need to be accepted by someone who has no desire or need to be with them?

This was a pretty cheesy movie overall and not one of Meg Ryan’s best movies. There was one funny part though. They are both taped up in the bathroom and Ian tells Louise that he wants to work on his marriage and he thinks he still loves her. She asked him if that’s because your taped to a toilet. That was funny, lol. But it got me thinking and like I wrote earlier, sorry about having to sit with me thinking out this stupid movie. Good thing it wasn’t Sponge Bob. That is a whole other topic, haha.

Puppy Love and Walls

ImageFacebook can be one of those things that can be good or bad. And status messages are the same. Today a friend of mine posted a interesting status and got me thinking about how true that was.

Mindy’s Status read like this, “It’s interesting to me how a puppy or new pet can come into your life and you love them immediately but when a person comes into your life they have to earn that love. I think it just shows how people really can be we they let down their walls and have an open heart. Love can come in so easy. Anyway just my thought today. Hello friends hope you all have a fantastic day.”

I found her statement very true. I know with my dogs all they have to do is come up and give me a wet slobbery kiss and all is forgiven. They give me those puppy dog eyes and see nothing wrong with what they did. And all is good in the world.

ImageAnd then on the flip side, it is very hard to let people get that close and to love them immediately. We are suppose to love them as we would ourselves, but I have these walls that won’t break down. And once I have been hurt by someone it takes a long long time to regain that trust. Not only regain that trust but to trust others that may be new in my life. But not with my dogs. I will give them chance after chance and I can open up myself and be myself around them. They just lay on my lap or give me lovins and all is well in my world. Why can’t people be that way?

Man, when someone puts out a random thought that gets me thinking is dangerous for all my readers. I was thinking to myself what is so great about dogs and why do people love them so. Here are a few of my thoughts on this subject.

On the topic of building walls I think sometimes they are healthy, but others not quite so. For every hurt a new block is placed and by the time we realize it, we have a full blown wall that nobody can break. There have been people I have put a lot of trust in and because of broken trusts and hurts, one more is added.

If the walls grow too much and you feel like you are loosing contact with the person (happens from time to time – i. e. when a friend is too busy and your friend is just slipping away). There are times if a relationship or friendship means enough to each other the walls can slowly come down. For me that takes time. The reason for that is because I have had my wall open up to certain friends and then I come to find out that the friendship wasn’t really as important to them as it was to be and that trust was broken or the load was to heavy for the friendship. Eventually that wall goes back up and I have a way of just letting the wall stay and letting the mortar set is and not go into anything with anyone.This is a statement someone else said on a website about this topic and I found it all to true for me: Most of us would agree that we show different facets of our personalities in different situations. You open yourself up to different people in different degrees. As you get to know them, like them, and/or trust them, you may decide to open up to a greater degree. Sometimes traumatic or stressful situations throw people together, causing strangers to form close bonds. This is another example of using walls effectively– knowing when to lower them.

When someone I know hurts me, or disappoints me, I find that my guard goes up–the wall gets a little higher. I will be a bit more cautious around them–not as open. But I also find that the more I see qualities that I like in a person, the lower the walls get, and the more I tend to share and trust. I find it is usually reciprocal.

ImageNow let me go into the why I love dogs and why it’s safe to let the walls come tumbling down.

Dogs need us, they give us a purpose. A lot of us have the strong desire and/or need to care for other living beings, and not all have children around. So, we get pets…and those pets like my dogs fill that void.

Dogs remind us to take life easy and to play . Well, they often demand it and we remember that it is fun and important to be silly and laugh. You don’t even need fancy toys. Just relax and follow your dog’s lead.

Dogs understand what is really important. A dog can provide so much of that from being something soft to pet to being a warm body snuggled up against you. My dogs Jasper and Parker love to be loved and they return that ten fold.

Dogs are great listener. They aren’t so good at giving feedback, but that’s okay. The point is to be able to talk and not get an opinion back.

The love of a dog is unconditional. Dogs don’t care what political affiliations or religious beliefs you have. They don’t care if you take a shower or not. You can gain 90 pounds and they’ll still love you. We are constantly judged by others, and even ourselves, but not by our faithful canine companions. Now, they may get a little irritable if you don’t feed them one day, but that’s an easy one to resolve.

After listing all the things that are great about dogs, I think us humans need to take lead and pay attention to them.